Sexologist Catherine Blanc reflects on the prejudices that complicate our intimate life.
“Women-“fountains” emit a fairly large amount of fluid during sex. Some people enjoy this “overflowing” and the freedom to completely let go of themselves, like men with their ejaculation. Others accept this loss of control less calmly and wonder in horror about the adequacy of their sexual appetites. They worry about themselves and their partner, and then the «fountain» becomes a source of anxiety for them.
The physiological meaning of this phenomenon is still a mystery. There are several hypotheses, but none has yet received final confirmation. The fluid that is released is similar in chemical composition to urine, but this is not it. Hence the feeling of embarrassment and embarrassment of some women-“fountains” who take their feelings for a desire to urinate and try to restrain it … But in love, control and pleasure are incompatible things. In this case, more than in many others, the mystery gives room for conscious and unconscious projections, and it is in the world of our fantasies that the power of desire or the power of prohibition arises. So in the case of a “gushing” woman, pleasure can be reduced or, conversely, increased, depending on the value that she attaches to this spontaneous “flood”.
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We tend to eagerly look for external confirmation of the female orgasm, so we like to think that the pleasure of the “fountain” woman is brighter, sharper. But are we talking about a man who secretes a lot of sperm, that he experiences more intense pleasure? Or that pleasure decreases with age because the amount of sperm decreases? And how long did it take for us to stop confusing the concepts of pleasure and ejaculation in a man? Then why on earth do we resort to such simplifications, «cutting corners»? Apparently, we feel the need to prove again and again (including ourselves) that we are able to experience pleasure and give it. The discussion about fountain women says a lot about our society, obsessed with numbers and, therefore, constantly feeling anxiety … «