The arsenal of intimate gadgets today is very large, and they are used by both girls in relationships and singles who want to have fun. It is only important to understand that sex toys can never completely replace a living person.
Today, many are sure that for a full life a woman needs a phallus: a sexual partner if she has a couple, or a sex toy if she is single. But by acquiring such an item, a woman seems to escape the power of reality, in which any of us, endowed with sex, needs another person, also endowed with sex.
And here the logic of consumption is already working: you can’t deprive yourself of an intimate life, even if we are alone. As if sex is some kind of essential product, the need for which must certainly be satisfied.
But in such an attitude it sounds … infantilism: it is assumed that we should get pleasure immediately, not learning and not knowing how to wait – so in infancy, hungry, we began to scream desperately, demanding the mother’s breast.
A sex gadget is offered to us as a response to arousal that cannot stand rejection or absence. It is as if they are holding out a toy that helps the baby survive the separation from the mother.
It is worth remembering: we are not able to be everything to ourselves and never need anyone.
But sex life is infinitely far from childhood. It is the prerogative of an adult who understands and accepts both the need to wait and dissatisfaction – all this also feeds his desire. It’s funny that some sex toys are even similar in some ways to toys for children.
Are they trying to sell us some “innocent” sexuality? Or free … from a partner? From a partner, perhaps. But not from a buying frenzy in which we forget that we already have our own hands and imagination – this, in fact, is all that is needed to achieve pleasure!
Naturally, a woman can masturbate: her body belongs to her alone. Naturally, she can try options for pleasure without a partner. And of course, she can use sex toys…
But at the same time, it will still remember: we are not able to be everything for ourselves and never need anyone. Otherwise, we will lose our nature – that most intimate and valuable thing that makes us desire and strive for another person.