Contents
- 1. One of the partners refuses to be photographed
- 2. More than 20% of the guests do not come to the wedding
- 3. Partners’ interest in each other seems feigned
- 4. Participants start to quarrel
- 5. Differences on financial matters
- 6. Partners tease each other sarcastically
- 7. Relationships are built only on physical attraction.
- 8. During the banquet, the newlyweds do not communicate.
Wedding photographers spend a lot of time with clients. Through experience, they note signs that the marriage is unlikely to last.
Several wedding photographers have shared eight signs that you can use to understand what a couple’s relationship is like.
1. One of the partners refuses to be photographed
Not everyone likes to be photographed. Sometimes there are times when one of the newlyweds does not want to participate in a photo shoot. Fortunately, in most cases, he or she is well aware of how important this is for a partner, and go to meet him, but not always. When I started my career, a man called me and invited me as a photographer to his wedding. I arrived, introduced myself to the bride, and she points to the camera and says: “So that you don’t even turn in my direction!”
The day was difficult. And after 3 months they divorced. I believe that the willingness to consider the needs and needs of a partner is the key to a long relationship. For example, to participate in a photo shoot, even if you do not like to be photographed.
Rob Greer is a wedding photographer based in Los Angeles.
2. More than 20% of the guests do not come to the wedding
Most often, about 10-15% of the invitees fail to attend the wedding, but when this number reaches 20-25% and above, it is worth considering the reasons. Most likely, friends and relatives guess that the relationship has no special prospects. From the outside, you can see where the relationship is heading.
I once worked at a wedding to which the newlyweds invited 250 people. They ordered a hall for 200 seats, and 60 guests came. They then approached me and asked if I would like to invite my wife and children to the banquet, because everything was already paid for, but no one came. I recently found out that they have already broken up.
Brian Delia, photo studio owner in Clifton, New Jersey.
3. Partners’ interest in each other seems feigned
If I photograph a couple and one of them tries to compensate for the lack of interest on the part of the partner, pretending to be enthusiastic, this is a bad sign. Maybe they’ve looked at hundreds of photos online and want their own wedding photos to look exactly the same.
Unfortunately, these plans do not take into account the dynamics of their relationship. Sometimes it turns out that they lack some kind of “chemistry” and emotional intimacy. Too often, they only care about how good a photo is for social media. They don’t care if the photographer can capture their feelings. It’s hard to see such estrangement between newlyweds.
Gretchen Wakeman is a wedding photographer based in Scottsdale, Arizona.
4. Participants start to quarrel
If quarrels and scandals occur between the participants in the ceremony, this is a bad sign. Example: our team went to shoot a wedding, and then the bride calls and says that she has canceled. She was very offended and said that the participants in the ceremony could not get along with each other. The witness from the groom’s side slept with the witness from the bride’s side, she was married. The men fought, and chaos reigned. We don’t know if this couple broke up, but overall it’s not a good sign.
Matt Adcock, co-founder of Del Sol Photography, Playa del Carmen, Mexico.
5. Differences on financial matters
A couple came to me to discuss their wedding photo shoot. When the bride went to the toilet, the groom admitted: “This wedding will ruin me. Expenses turned out to be twice as high as planned. Financial matters are of great importance in a marriage and are often the cause of divorce. My clients in that case broke up six months after their wedding with 150 guests.
Carlos J. Osorio, Owner of Miami Photo in Miami, Florida.
6. Partners tease each other sarcastically
I have worked for over 1000 weddings and I have noticed that if the bride and groom fight all day, the conflicts will get worse over time. Sometimes they say that they play pranks on each other, but usually there is some truth in every joke or “joke”. An unpleasant incident that happened to be observed — the bride said that she was not going to kiss her husband anymore. It seems to be a trifle, but it has a deep meaning.
Rob Greer is a wedding photographer based in Los Angeles, California.
7. Relationships are built only on physical attraction.
We have seen couples in which the bride and groom showed very passionate attention. I remember one wedding, which was celebrated by a very young couple, both were in great shape. The relationship was dominated by physical attraction, it was interesting to observe their communication and body language.
At the end of the evening, they invited me to retire with them for an erotic photo shoot, it sounded so ambiguous that I was not sure if they were offering to take pictures or participate in their love games. It was all very strange, so I politely declined and went home. They separated a year later.
Sol Tamargo, co-founder of Del Sol Photography, Playa del Carmen, Mexico.
8. During the banquet, the newlyweds do not communicate.
Most after the wedding ceremony is looking forward to the banquet. The stress and worries about the wedding are over: you can relax and have fun.
At the banquet, the newlyweds usually meet guests, dance and celebrate their new status. But if they spend almost the entire evening apart, for example, the husband goes to communicate with the guests, leaving his wife alone on the dance floor for several hours, this is a “wake-up call”. There were times when I photographed banquets, and only in a few pictures both partners got into the frame.
Gretchen Wakeman is a wedding photographer based in Scottsdale, Arizona.