Distance sex: games and tricks to keep enjoying

Distance sex: games and tricks to keep enjoying

Sexuality

The psychologist Nayara Malnero reveals in her book Sex at a distance what are some of the erotic games that make the temperature rise the most

Having sex in full isolation has been a great challenge for many people who have lived in different homes, but Covid-19 has only been a small challenge for women. new technologies., who have been in charge of shortening distances and making the harsh period of confinement that everyone has lived through more bearable.

The telephone has become the great ally, and all those couples, ‘crushes’ or friends with the right to touch that have remained far away for more than two and a half months have had to adapt to the patterns that the situation has given them ; without physical contact the imagination of the human being flies even higher, and the innumerable ways to continue having sex has been reinvented, and we are not talking only about what each one has with himself.

“The normal and habitual ways of socialization have been taken away from us and we have reinvented ourselves, we have progressed. A few days ago I launched a question on my social networks to find out if they had joined cybersex, and 50% answered that they would have tried it before. Of the remaining 50%, 25% passed it and the other half had discovered it during confinement, ”explains Nayara Malnero, general health psychologist, clinical sexologist and sex coach.

The crises, as the author of «Distance sex. 50 ideas, games and tricks to continue enjoying, has been extreme in all aspects: while relationships have become more strongly united and created a major link, others have come to the farewell, separation and divorce. «There are couples who during confinement have been able to stand up and look at the eyes for the first time, they have gotten to know each other more and have had time for each other. On the other hand, many others have discovered that each one is better on their own ”, says the psychologist.

Unleash on the phone

It is not the same to have a partner as not to have one, and those who have not have have thrown in these days dating applications. “Tinder has grown during confinement, and couples who have emerged unscathed from this isolation have managed to adapt to the moment,” says Nayara Malnero, who says that video calls they have arrived thanks to the messages that have been raising the tone, and to the exchange of images that has taken place. «This way of communicating and having sex is here to stay because there is so much fear of contagion, so when a safe alternative is discovered, it allows you to enjoy sex regardless of distance», He concludes.

Users have been talking to matches from all over the world thanks to the Passport functionality, which allows you to match people thousands of miles away and was available for free between March 27 and May 4. Conversations in Spain have been increased by 30% compared to the beginning of March, before the quarantine, which contrasts with 20% globally.

Two erotic games

If something is full of Nayara Malnero’s book, it is erotic and sexual games to brighten up anyone’s time. Whether or not you have a partner and whether you live with her or not, these games are ideal for raising the temperature regardless of the moment.

«My book has 50 games, but there are many variations within each one. One that is a lot of fun is depriving yourself of images or no audio. If we send a video without sound or an audio in which there are no images, we become more creative, “he says. Nayara Malnero comments that by depriving ourselves of a stimulus, we unleash the rest of the senses. “In real life we ​​may wear a handkerchief and we are unable to see. That is exciting, so it would be the same in the online version ».

By turns. It is a classic, but not less effective for that. While your partner is stimulated, you only see but can not do anything. «In person we usually stimulate ourselves at the same time to be more pleasant, but in this way, when only one of the two is exercising, there is suffering from waiting and an increase in temperature. If it is carried out by video call, the norm is the same. In addition, it comes in very handy to learn a little about how your partner likes it », explains the psychologist and sexologist.