Love disappointment, whether caused by a breakup, infidelity, betrayal, or one-sided love, is always painful. When they are repeated, the consequences for the person suffering them can be destructive. Tired of always being disappointed in love? Are you wondering why this always falls on you? Here are some tips to help you avoid further sentimental setbacks.

We talk about disappointment in love when we are under heavy disillusionment from the person we love. Rupture, betrayal, unrequited love, adultery … The causes of love disappointments are multiple. But the consequences are often the same: suffering and the feeling of having been duped. When romantic disappointments repeat themselves, it’s self-confidence and self-esteem that take a hit. The future in love of people who have multiplied love disappointments is then fragile because their vision of love has been damaged.

Some romantic disappointments are inevitable. They are beneficial in the sense that they teach us more about love and about ourselves. On the other hand, when they are almost systematic, it is problematic because they weaken us. Rather than moping and telling yourself that you will never have luck in love, try to understand why you always reproduce the same patterns. There are several reasons for repeated romantic disappointments:

• You idealize the other too much right from the start of the relationship. It is normal to idealize your partner and your couple in a budding relationship. But be careful, keep your feet on the ground. Keep in mind that in a relationship, there are ups and downs and that the other is not perfect. The more you idealize, the harder it will be in the event of conflict or even rupture.
• You seek in love what you have always known. The fact of multiplying love disappointments can be linked to our childhood. If in childhood you were used to complicated or even toxic family relationships, there are risks that you looked for in your partner / mate for characteristics similar to the people who loved you from the beginning of your life. Our unconscious pushes us to go towards what we know. Not having lived healthy relationships in the past, you will not go to the right people because you do not know that it is possible to love and be loved in other ways.

Fortunately, it is possible to recover from a disappointment in love but also to protect yourself for the future.

By having self-confidence

It’s okay to have self-doubts after a disappointment in love, but the pain shouldn’t overwhelm you for too long. After the sentimental mourning phase, it is important to put all the chances on your side to avoid further disappointments. How? ‘Or’ What ? By regaining confidence in you! Self-confidence and good self-esteem are two essential elements for maintaining healthy relationships. This is because you know what you want and what you don’t want in a relationship. Also, you are able to spot people who are potentially toxic and run away from them. Because know it, toxic personalities most often attack people who have low self-esteem. After a romantic disappointment, take the time to think about what you need to flourish, highlight your best assets, go out to meet new people without necessarily thinking of getting back into a relationship as soon as possible and try new things. (new sports activities, new travel destinations…). By loving yourself, you convey a positive image of yourself, which appeals to others.

By learning from his mistakes

“Anything that does not rise in consciousness comes back in the form of fate”, Said the famous psychologist Carl Gustav Jung. If you don’t learn from your mistakes, you will repeat them over and over again. After several romantic disappointments, it is necessary to take stock of these relationships that did not work and to become aware of the causes of these failures. List the things you no longer want in your upcoming romantic relationships. This will allow you not to go to profiles that have disappointed you in the past. Love disappointments hurt but at least they have the merit of helping us to clarify our sentimental expectations.