She is without an arm, he is without a leg, but this is ballet!
download video
People with a conscience will always take care of those who have become disabled, defending their homeland.
download video
download video
A disabled person is a person with serious physical disabilities that deprive him of the opportunity to lead a normal life for other people.
It is very important not to confuse a disabled person with a person in the Disabled position. The author of this article is a disabled person, there are two more disabled people in my family, but we don’t call ourselves disabled, we don’t consider ourselves disabled, and we are not disabled in life. On the other hand, many people, even those who do not have physical disabilities, tend to get up (fall) into the position of the Disabled and demand special treatment. They want people to see their difficulties, and do not want to see the difficulties of others themselves. They love to be taken care of, but they don’t like to take care of others themselves.
The position of the Disabled is a state of mind when a person uses his life’s difficulties and plays on the pity of others in order to get additional attention and help. The position of the Disabled is a strengthened position of the Victim.
How to treat the position of the Disabled?
Often the position of the Disabled person turns out to be a random behavior, uncritically mastered in the process of social imitation, and with the right correction, it may well be removed.
Children often like to play the position of the Disabled. He fell, hurt his knee, began to yell and limp: “Ahhh! Mum!!» — reproducing what I have seen many times before.
While the child has not yet played, it is quite possible to correct it. They calmly and promptly looked at his knee, praised him: “It fell cool!” and gave the instruction: «Stop sobbing!» They warned: “If it continues to hurt, tell me, let’s go home, we’ll treat the wound with peroxide. Let’s go to?» — After that, usually the sobs stop, the eyes become clear, the position of the Invalid is over.
How to treat people with a real disability?
Mentally healthy people who are physically disabled usually gratefully accept help when needed, but do not like and do not accept pity. “We are not defective! We are not defective!” — they say, demanding to see them as full-fledged people. They do not want to stand in line with beggars who have found in their disability a way to become Parasites.
Treating disabled people with respect means helping and caring for them without humiliating them with pity.
Story: “I have a student, she is on crutches, she walks slowly, especially up the stairs. When I go to my own seminar, I meet her, I ask on the run: “Tan, help?”. She invariably answers, «No.» She herself can, only slowly.
Discussion material
From Snob magazine: “The most difficult thing is equality. It is extremely difficult for a benevolent, informed and tolerant healthy person to communicate with a disabled person on an equal footing. I can call a healthy person a fool, an idler, a thief, but not an invalid. This will be considered discrimination even if the said person with a disability is really a fool, a bum or a thief. I can joke about the weaknesses of a healthy person, but not about the weaknesses of an invalid. It will be considered discrimination. When social commentator Bozena Rynska was rude to government officials on her blog, the public took it with delight. When she got nasty to the disabled, she was accused almost of fascism. Even when the director of the Pushkin Museum, Irina Antonova, announced that she would not install a wheelchair lift on the front staircase, she was accused of discrimination against the disabled.
There are 7 video lessons in the course. View >>