Sexual desire in women is largely stimulated by hearing: a few words whispered in the ear are sometimes enough to make her libido take off. In humans, too, naughty sentences pronounced in bed can be a source of excitement. When the chosen words are believed, the lovers experiment the dirty talk, an art to be handled with care.

Romantic words, naughty sentences or erotic words, lovers can resort to all kinds of conversations with a sexual connotation in order to arouse the desire for sex but also to spice up relationships and guide the partner towards pleasure. How to use dirty talk.

Live or by phone, choose the right time

When a couple experiences dirty talk for the first time, it is important to choose the right moment. Hitherto silent lovers may be surprised by this turnaround in their practice of sex, and not necessarily in a good way. To prepare the ground, the partner can start by sending a few words of sexual connotation by text or by phone – “I want you”, “what are you wearing”, “look forward to meeting you tonight. »… This prerequisite makes it possible to put the man and the woman in a context of symbiosis and to increase the desire for sex. Once together, the naughty phrases can begin during foreplay: “you turn me on”, “you have soft skin”, “oh yes”, so many expressions frequently used to increase sexual desire. Finally, during the act, the lovers can use evocative words to maintain the sexual arousal but also to guide the other towards reaching the orgasm – “like that”, “touch me”, “more strong ”,“ I am going to cum ”.

From erotic to pornographic, the rise of dirty conversation over sex

When partners have a go at dirty talk for the first time, it is important to go crescendo. Starting with naughty sentences, then using increasingly raw words until they make pornographic comments, if the other is receptive. Seeing the conversation in bed as a choreography in sync with the rise of sexual pleasure makes it easier for lovers to accept this new erotic game. 

In the game of dirty talk, not all partners are receptive. Considered as an obstacle to sexual arousal by some, naughty sentences must in this context be handled with justice.

To provoke with naughty sentences within the limits of respect

The refractory to dirty talk advance the argument of vulgarity and insanity. This obstacle can be easily removed, indeed the words do not have to be insulting to arouse. The goal of the game: to provoke the other during the foreplay, to surprise or inform him during the sexual act. From this perspective, everyday words may suffice when used in a context of excitement and accompanied by an evocative gesture or smile. No need to insult your partner by taking examples from violent porn movies, no need to resort to sexist or demeaning remarks – unless this hardcore character particularly turns the other on.

Ask questions to encourage dirty talk and achieve orgasm

Because communicating in bed is also a way to achieve sexual pleasure more easily, it may be wise to question or comfort the partner during the act. But in order not to fall into love-killing, it is better to avoid terms considered clinical or medical: lovers will choose a term other than penis or vagina to designate the genitals, for example.

Keep a common vocabulary

If the dirty talk is part of a role-playing atmosphere, the partners have every interest in not using a vocabulary completely unknown to the other. By leaving his daily lexical field, the lover risks surprising his partner to the point of cutting off his desire for sex. 

The practice of dirty talk is unique to each couple, and a naughty phrase that turns one woman on can be a real killer for another. Some examples for the couple lacking inspiration, to adapt to the partner:

• “I’m going to make you cum like never before”
• “Do to me what you want”
• “Take me there, now”
• “I want to … you …”
• “I like to feel your / your …”