An adult can influence a child directly and directly, and sometimes this is the simplest and most effective method.
The child does not know something — you told him, does not understand — explained, does not know how — taught. He is marking time, does not know what decision to make — they sent him in the right direction. He doesn’t know how exciting something is — you played with him and made him happy. He began to do bad things — they stopped him, he got used to the unnecessary, harmful or dangerous — they weaned him off. He does it right — he was supported and gradually accustomed to this. All these are direct influences, the main components of both the management of the child and his upbringing.
Suggestion and impressions imprint, demonstration and clarification gives understanding, personal example gives a model before the eyes, involvement gives passion, habituation forms a habit, positive reinforcement of repetition reinforces the result. It is necessary to explain, to teach something (to teach something) through play, desire and interest, to teach useful things, to teach good things, to wean them from bad things — this is what our direct educational impact on the child is made up of.
Getting what is necessary from a child and stopping what is unacceptable are important tasks, but these are not education technologies, but technologies for managing a child, a way to solve situational problems. If the same situational tasks have to be solved often, typically, this will more likely relate to education, since behavior is already changing systematically.
Negotiate or teach
It is most natural to negotiate with normal people and educated children. If it is not possible to agree, training and training remain practically the only means of effective influence. See →
Personal example of parents
The personal example of the parents gives the child a pattern before his eyes. See →
Increase personal influence
Parents influence a lot or little, parents are interested in their influence on children being significant, parents are interested in strengthening their personal influence. In order for the word of a parent to sound meaningful, serious for a child, for a child to listen to you, you need to take care of two things: First, address the child competently. The second is, in principle, to strengthen your parental authority.
Do not Cry
Good parents do not yell at their children, as a rule. Everything can be negotiated calmly. Tell him what you want. If you do not like something, do not be silent, accumulating anger and irritation — calmly and firmly tell the child, then you expect him to do what he needs to do. Does not obey — do not shout, but repeat. Doesn’t listen — figure out what’s the matter. See →