Recently, we (my husband and I) have had a certain strain in our relationship with the child. Artyom behaves normally only under the «yoke of fatal power.»
When we “press” on a child (force, conduct “conversations”, punish), our requirements are met. Requirements, in general, are not difficult for a child of 8 years. Clean your room, study responsibly, take care of your appearance.
The situation is getting back to normal. We are easing the pressure. The child begins to become impudent just before our eyes.
— Please clean the table. Look, felt-tip pens are scattered, pieces of paper are lying around.
— I do not want
— And there is such a word «should». It is your responsibility to maintain order in the workplace.
— But I do not want.
I think that the problem grew because the child was for the most part made demands, he did not want to, and, in the end, they did it for him.