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A good question is «Why am I successful?». I know that I am successful, but it is all the more important and pleasant to write about it in detail and specifically. Three main areas: work, family, personal development.
Work
Looking back, I know that each new place was a step forward for me, a step up. Am I right, is it right, but I have always, since my second year, worked in my specialty. Paralegal, betting company, real estate agency, retail… I looked, searched, grew, changed places, trying the variety of my field of activity, determining what the word “lawyer” means, determining which areas I should study, master for further work, clarifying future specialization.
In the last place, in a chain of shopping centers, life gave me an interesting surprise. Initially, I was invited to the position of a second lawyer. Typical routine, simple questions, simple answers. Which is good, I was lucky with my senior colleague. Once a prominent and active lawyer from the fraternal republic, now a person who has temporarily settled in a quiet place, who taught me a lot.
I liked his approach: he delegated most of the questions to me, citing the need to “check my competence”. After that, for the next three weeks I chose a new tablet for myself and read the news on RBC. I was completely satisfied with this approach. The less he does himself, the more he gives to me, the more experience I get (after the tablet, he began to choose a new phone :). In my opinion, more experience, higher qualifications.
The second important thing I took from him is an example of how not to do it, an example of a professional victim. Complaining so skillfully about circumstances is a must! “I want a new car, a new salary, a new wife, a second degree, I want to open my own business …” And I really wanted to! It used to be that he opens news on the Internet in the morning, and wants to. Sits and wants.
And I watched him and inspired myself that this was not my way. I was alien to such behavior, plaintive conversations. The pattern in front of my eyes helped to develop more determination: if you want, do it! This approach helps the owner well in life.
When a colleague left in search of a better place, there was no talk about who would take his place, there was no search. I became the lead legal counsel for a chain of malls, as a matter of course. And new interesting tasks appeared before me: to learn to find the line between business and personal, confidential communication now with my employees, to direct the activities of the department in the direction I need.
For a long time I have developed an interesting attitude towards work. I can do without cunning, it’s hard for me to say that the work inspires me, I draw strength from it, I love it very much. But at the same time, I don’t need a break from work, I don’t need a vacation, I don’t get tired, work doesn’t oppress me, doesn’t plunge me into a spleen. An even, rather positive attitude. And that’s great, let there be more people who can say the same thing. I wish many the same star on the fuselage.
Family
Much has changed for the better in the past year and a half. One of the most amazing and significant discoveries for me is love languages, for which special thanks to Marina Smirnova and Vladimir Vinogradov. It turned out that it is very difficult and very simple to understand and accept the idea that another person’s concern for me can be expressed in a completely different way than I like it. And even more, when another person does something that goes against my desires and habits, it often happens not because the person is bad, but only because he knows how, that he is used to doing just that. And is it reasonable to scold a person for his unconscious actions? It is worth understanding and accepting this, accepting that the manifestation of care by another person is not always perceived by us as care, as soon as our communication changes, unnecessary conflicts, squabbles, disputes, and insults leave the relationship. Very good for peace of mind, right?
Personal development
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