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Diana Arbenina showed a country house and children
The singer invited Antenna to visit her in the Moscow region.
26 September 2018
– I have been living in this house for 15 years with short interruptions at the time when I rented an apartment in Moscow on the Arbat, then Artyom and Marta went to kindergarten. The children have grown up (twins are 8 years old. – Approx. “Antenna”), and everyone needs their own room. So we returned to the house and started with the renovation. It proceeded rather atypically. I do not like construction and suffer from the slightest rearrangement of furniture. Besides, I am constantly on tour. Therefore, I decided: I will not run home and interfere with the work of people, but I will trust the designer Alexei Korchinsky. He sent pictures, and I said what I like and what not. The main wish was – more freedom and not overload the space with furniture. Now we have a large kitchen for family dinners, each has a bedroom, a rehearsal room where the group gathers, a dressing room with good lighting, where I get ready for concerts.
“At six in the morning we are all like zombies”
– The road from home to school in Krasnogorsk, where Marta and Artem study, takes an hour. It’s hard to get up, given that it’s autumn, and we all have not fully entered the rhythm. But this is a matter of habit. Early wakes are harder for March, but she gets ready faster. But Subject, as soon as the alarm rings, is already sitting on the bed. The impression is that he did not sleep at all. But he cannot wash and brush his teeth in two minutes. I understand him. Anyone at six in the morning feels like a zombie. I don’t stand behind him with a stick and I don’t shout. In general, in order for children to feel adequate in the morning, they must be put to bed at 21:30. If you don’t get enough sleep, then at nine or even half past nine.
Children are the same people, but still small. And if in ordinary life you do not fit each other, you can part, but with children it will not work. Therefore, it is necessary to negotiate in any situation. On the other hand, the older the children, the more I see my features in them. In March – a strong inner core, willpower, spirit, depth of character, nobility. In Artyom, one reads vulnerability, subtlety and a certain feeling of insecurity, which in fact is also a lot in me.
You can be rich and unhappy
– Artem, like me, inherited talent from my father, his grandfather (journalist Sergei Kulachenko. – Approx. “Antenna”). In comparison with Martha, he is more creative and organizer of their undertakings. But the son and daughter are only eight years old. And at any moment the situation can change. If someone told me at this age that I would write songs, I would only be surprised. I liked reading books and climbing fences, and I composed the first song at 19. Artem goes to boxing, Marta goes to tennis. Both have swimming, music school and theater club. I constantly want to free up time for them, but all the activities are important. I’m not in any way trying to raise little geeks, musicians, or swimming champions. Let everyone try and choose what they like. As a parent, I see my mission as raising them free, happy people. After all, you can be mega-talented, rich, but unhappy. I want them to have a sense of inner harmony, happy families, and a love affair. You don’t have to be a star and conquer the world. I will be glad if they choose the profession of a diver, doctor or architect, the main thing is that they enjoy it. So I tell the children: I have my own way, it is in music, and you are looking for your own. I don’t believe in clannishness.
– The older I get, the clearer I understand that it is the family that makes me alive. So we met with you on Monday, and I spent Sunday with the children – I feel renewed and as if reborn. The family should have traditions: go to visit grandmother, stick dumplings before the New Year, set the table together. No matter how busy it is, every Sunday we have a mother’s day.
We are three of us almost all the time, but Martha and I have a “girl’s” business. I remember with my daughter, son and three of their classmates went to the “Star Wars” in the cinema. The film, to put it mildly, did not impress me, and already at the fifth minute I whisper to my daughter: “Let’s go choose a book or a dress for you”. She: “Come on.” They left the boys to watch the shooting games, while they themselves went shopping. Once before school I took her into her bathroom and said: “Choose a perfume.” I put two of your choice on the table. She “listened” to both and sprinkled with something that was softer, and I felt so pleased that she had already formed a good taste.
Martha learned to read early and at the age of three overdid it with books and ruined her eyesight. She is extremely pretty and in glasses, but I still often tell her: “How do they suit you!” or “What a beauty you are!”, although I know that she never had any complex. Or when we are secret with her, I ask: “Do you like boys?” She: “It doesn’t matter yet, the main thing is that they like me.” She already has this feminine self-esteem, inner self-confidence.
I try to cultivate generosity in Artyom. Yes, a man should be partly the owner, but there have never been any misers in our family. In those days, when my parents and I lived in Chukotka and my father was delivered a box of orange juice when there was then a complete shortage of fruit in our region, we distributed it entirely. If my son is a miser, I just don’t know what I’ll do with him. He simply has no chance of becoming Plyushkin!
– You can exhaust yourself with diets, kill yourself in the gym, but be of no use to anyone. I treat my body, diet, with healthy self-discipline. I don’t exhaust myself, but I don’t overeat with donuts at night – I eat a maximum of one. I am engaged in elementary physical education. I used to go to boxing, but now there is no time. Talking about dieting and counting calories is the most commonplace for a woman. I know that people love me not for the cubes on my stomach. In general, I realized that I had already reached the state where I was absolutely happy. I am free, I have favorite children and business. What else does a woman need?
Concert of the group “Night snipers”
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