With problematic introversion, you can work in two directions: making introversion less problematic or developing extrovert traits in a person. The first is easier, the second is more promising.
If a strong person sets himself the development of extrovert traits as a serious task, everything is real. Really acquire the skill and skill so that it is easy and natural for a person to look people in the eyes, hear a partner, and not their glitches about this, be open in expressing feelings (especially positive ones) — and so on along the list of skills that an extrovert has developed .
On the other hand, if a particular person can hardly be called strong, and his introversion is seriously pronounced, at the level of personal accentuation, then it is almost impossible to remove it. It is easier to look for an opportunity to accommodate this personality trait by finding a job in life where extroversion is not required.
In any case, it is quite difficult to change this personality trait on your own. Firstly, few people are really ready to change (have the desire and skills), and secondly, this particular personality trait is more difficult to change than others. It seems more effective to work in a training group under the guidance of an experienced trainer, where the efforts of a person are directed and receive adequate support.
However, not all trainings are suitable for problem introverts. Hard trainings and many practices aimed at listening to oneself and experiencing inner experience can be dangerous for them. There are fears that meditation practices, psychoanalysis and Gestalt therapy in this case will not only not be useful, but may contribute to the further development of introversion↑. More useful are trainings of a behavioral and personal-active orientation (NLP, Sinton approach).
If we are talking about negative experiences characteristic of a problematic introvert, then this is a separate task, which is solved by removing the functional negative and developing positive thinking.
For the development of extraversion is useful:
- to acquire skill and skill easily, naturally and with pleasure to look people in the eye. In Sinton, this skill is developed in two months, after passing the Mastery of Communication. Particular attention should be paid to the exercise «Calm presence.» Separately wean yourself to avert your eyes. Accustom yourself to look into the face of the interlocutor, even when you are thinking and thinking what to say. See details →
- To hear a partner, and not your own glitches about it. Similarly, in Sinton, for Basic training, special attention to the exercise “Total YES” and the ability to hear.
- Be open in expressing feelings (especially positive ones). Sinton, Basic training, special attention to the Complimenter exercise and the ability to be grateful. Other than that, practice I-statements.
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And so that the former introvert does not suffer when it is not necessary, let him work out the “Internal Good” exercise. It is quite real, it turns out almost everyone. Who wants
It is difficult for an introvert to be with others, and he begins to avoid others, remaining alone. The result is that self-absorption only grows. If you have the traits of an introvert, then, on the contrary, move away from loneliness, from talking with yourself, teach yourself to be in life and with people. To turn your attention outward, it is useful to start caring for someone. In ascending order of benefit and difficulty:
- get flowers and take care of them,
- get a bird or a pet. They require care, and this is exactly what is needed in this case.
- select a person in the team who will be your ward, and follow him tirelessly (suggest, support, help),
If you have a loved one and a beloved child, this is a radical cure for introversion. Just learn not to suffer next to them, but to be with them, help them and support them!