The decision is an act of will, the introduction of certainty.
Once the decision is made, most of the emotions go away. Irritation, anger, resentment, fears go away — now you know what to do.
There are many unclear situations in life, where it is not clear what to focus on and where to go, but to flounder in a situation of uncertainty means to plunge into a swamp. What to do? Look for options for at least some reasonable action. When there are no options for such actions yet, or, conversely, there are too many of them, we are at the stage of finding solutions. The search for solutions ends when reasonable options for action are already visible, alternatives have appeared. Now the moment of choice has come, you need to make a decision, make the final choice.
Imagine that you have come to the store for a teapot. If there are 100 different models on the shelf, it is difficult to choose, you have to find solutions. Call a consultant, ask questions, the circle of choice will narrow down to three, for example. The last stage is no longer a search for a solution, but a decision, a choice.
For a person who intends to succeed, decision-making must become a habit. The main guidelines for making a decision are meaning, reasonableness, expediency, feasibility, calculation of pluses and minuses, taking into account the consequences, both immediate and distant. Including the pedagogical aspect of the solution.
At the same time, we are not machines, we have our own individual habits and preferences, there are emotions and desires, and all this affects our decision-making, constitutes the psychology of decision-making. Yes, sometimes it’s scary to make independent decisions. Sometimes emotions and difficult traits of one’s own character interfere. How to deal with it, see →