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3 stages of human ore processing
People get acquainted, meet, fall in love, get married… The path from acquaintance to marriage is approximately the same for all harmonious couples. And if you approach this process with a clear head, not obscured by prejudices and romantic beliefs such as “love will suddenly come” and “finding That One is a great success”, then the principle of action becomes extremely specific. As a production-conveyor in metallurgy.
So, let’s take you — a decent person with a lot of virtues, smart, rich, handsome, but for some reason lonely. Based on the assumption (by the way, very correct), since you, so gorgeous and beautiful, are on a dating site, then someone else, just as gorgeous and beautiful, is also sitting here somewhere. All you have to do is stumble upon each other, and everything you want will happen to mutual joy. The desired usually sounds like this: «To build a harmonious, close, warm love relationship with the prospect of creating a family.» A very good human desire, equally inherent in both men and women.
What do we actually have? You spend half a year on a dating site, for the third or fourth month you sluggishly correspond with someone, you even went on a date with a couple of candidates or candidates. And there are still no “butterflies in the stomach”, “magic” does not happen, “divine sparks” do not want to fly when looking at the one who came.
And now, attention! Working strategy. How to find gold in the sand, or instructions for processing human ore.
1. To obtain metal from ore, it is necessary to remove waste rock and, by decomposition of the ore mineral, separate the metal from the elements chemically associated with it.
Determine for yourself what kind of man you would marry / what woman you would marry. Write the important qualities of a person to whom you would gladly say: “Yes!”
For example, it could be the following list:
- great sex
- good financial position
- responsibility
- romance
- gallant, educated
- smart, highly educated
- nice sweet voice
- athletic, good fit
- at the sight of me, her / his eyes light up
Explain a little about each of your points. It will be great if you use VAK-images. For example, for one of my clients, “gallant, well-mannered” specifically meant:
— if we are driving a car, then when we get out of it, he opens the door for me and offers his hand;
— when we meet, he takes heavy bags from me,
— pays for me in a cafe,
– pushes or moves the chair so that I can sit or stand comfortably.
The more you describe your visual-auditory-kinesthetic pictures, the better the criteria will be formed in your head, according to which you will select your «gold», removing the «waste rock».
2. To speed up the necessary chemical reactions, metallurgical processes are carried out either using high temperatures, or ore is processed with aqueous solutions of reagents.
Next step: list your strengths. What can you offer your partner? What is your product on your showcase?
Write a list: “My virtues. What I can, know how, love, what I would readily do / would do for my wife / for my husband.
It could be, for example, a list like this:
- I know how to cook, I can feed delicious food.
- I can motivate with praise to achieve goals.
- I can control medication, take care of health.
- I can organize an interesting holiday
- I’m great at massage.
- I am a real sex bomb.
How in demand is your list in the marriage market? And this can be checked by referring to an expert assessment.
Find in your environment five, and preferably ten real people of the opposite sex who meet the criteria from your first list by at least 70 percent. It doesn’t matter if they are busy or married. It doesn’t matter if they like you or not. You need to collect statistics. To do this, contact them with a question. For example, a woman addresses a man:
“Tell me, please, what qualities do you value most in a woman? What qualities would you marry a woman with?
If the interviewed man is already married: “Why did you marry this particular woman? What was it about her that attracted you?
Try to collect at least three qualities from each. So you will have a third list — a list of requests from the opposite side.
Compare the received list with the second one, the requests of the potential «clientele» with your offers. It may turn out that you, with all your “set”, are not an attractive product for the buyer you are interested in. This is terrible and at the same time powerful information that will show you all your growth zones.
Let’s say that these qualities coincided by 70%. Hooray! You really are able to set your «gold» the heat of the relationship.
3. Typical varieties of pyrometallurgical processes are roasting, melting and distillation, and hydrometallurgical processes are leaching and precipitation from solutions.
Now let’s get down to business. On a dating site, we select a dozen candidates, previously filtered by the system:
- suitable age
- suitable physical indicators
- they are geographically close
From this ten, we select those who fit the criteria you indicated from the first list by at least 70 percent. Let’s say there are three of them.
Sending all three a message with the following content:
“Dear Sofia Petrovna. I can’t help but feel like we’ve met somewhere. And I would be very interested to know what women like you appreciate in men. Tell me, which man would you marry?
The calculation is simple: you do not impose and do not even offer anything concrete. But at the same time, they will carefully examine you and read: “What if, really, did you meet somewhere?”. You posted a good question as food for thought. Thinking about this question, the addressee will think about something pleasant — about the person of his dreams. And you will automatically connect with this dream on the basis of an associative reflex according to Bekhterev.
The next day, choose the next ten candidates.
You sort response letters into “adequate” and “inadequate”, you start communication with “adequate”. First in writing, then by telephone, then a meeting in a public place, then you yourself know.
Treat this job responsibly. You choose your future life partner, the best person in the world, the quality of which will set the standard of living for your and your future joint children.
According to my female experience, the conversion of decent men from a dating site with this approach is 10%, that is, one in ten responds to your activity in a way that suits you.
My personal statistics: one year of active work on a dating site, more than 300 mailing letters to promising candidates, more than 30 real meetings with different people, trial development of relationships with three potential husband candidates. And finally, I got a true diamond — the best husband in the world, the one with whom we have been living happily for the seventh year and raising two children together. True, we began to consciously build a truly strong marriage after we put a stamp in our passport. But that’s a completely different story.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.