Is it possible to find a husband on the Internet?
My answer is this: it’s not as easy as we would like, but it’s possible!
In the recreation room in the Sinton building, we discussed this topic. After this conversation, I was approached by those who did not participate in this communication, but found out about it. Girls came up with the questions “did you really meet your husband on the Internet?”, “Do you really believe that you can find someone normal there?” And if there are such questions, then I decided to tell my vision.
Yes, on the Internet I met my beloved man, whose last name I now bear. Yes, there are a lot of idiots on the Internet (sorry for the gu.e.st). But in my opinion, there are no more of them than the usual “outside the Internet” life, although, probably, there is more concentration of boobies on the dating site and this should be taken into account. I remember that I was dissuaded from dating sites by a friend who met in a more traditional way — and they said that I would not find anyone normal there. And I always thought that since I was good and wonderful there, then another good wonderful person can be brought there. After all, each of us for happiness needs not a crowd, but only one. But very often, girls, sorting through a deck of 36 cards, do not believe that there are aces there. “Probably, someone has already pulled them out before us,” they think. But in every deck there are aces, and there are also kings and jacks. There are sixes, and the task of dating on the Internet is to calmly dismiss the sixes and look for those who are suitable for us by status.
Considering that I met my husband more than four years ago, and I did not keep any records, it is difficult for me to remember all the details of my experience in numbers. But the fact that before I met HIM, I talked a lot on the site, and met a lot in person. Some face-to-face meetings took no more than 15 minutes. Rarely did I go to the cinema with a new acquaintance, most often they just walked or sat in a cafe. In the cinema there is no opportunity to talk with a person, to find out his thoughts — and a walk and gatherings in a cozy cafe provide such opportunities.
There were young people who fell in love with me and called to meet again — but they were not interesting to me — and I did not meet again — I was sorry for my time. There were those who admired me, but they did not like me. This is fine. Girls, if this happens to you, please remember, this is normal — look further. So I say I met a lot — this is how much? Exactly more than ten personal acquaintances, I think more than twenty, but I don’t know exactly how many. And each time, not having met the right one, I continued to search and meet further. Therefore, when they tell me that there are no normal people on the Internet, and they checked it by meeting with one, it makes me smile! And another important point — I always talked a lot before the meeting, directly on the site or via icq.
Girls, I want to emphasize once again that this is a very important point — to communicate a lot before the meeting. That is why communication on the site takes a lot of time. It is desirable even before the meeting to understand what the guy (man) is looking for on the same site. Here the moment is really serious, one girl I know met on the Internet and after a short dialogue “Hi — hello”, “let’s meet — let’s” — he drove by car. She jumped into the car. Everything ended well, but the guy did not want romance and further family life. And he really insisted on sex in this meeting in the car. Therefore communicate! — be sure to communicate before the meeting! Find out what he is looking for now on this site? And does it match your goals? Maybe he is married and looking for sex for one or two times — there are quite a few of them, or maybe he is looking for a permanent mistress? Do you need it? If yes, then great. And if you don’t need to, then don’t waste time on meetings, find out about his goals for dating even before the meeting!
And, in my opinion, it is important to write detailed information about yourself. When you write about yourself, think about the man you want to meet on this site. The prince needs a princess — what is in you that HE will appreciate? If you are looking for a guy with whom you can go to parties and clubs together, then be sure to write that you love clubs. If you think that your ability to organize comfort at home is valuable for your future chosen one, and you cook deliciously, then write about it. Highlight your strengths, but don’t exaggerate. If you’re looking for a real person, then be real yourself.
I also strongly advise you to carefully select photos for your profile, if it is difficult for you to do it yourself, use the help of others. I have a friend, a beautiful slender girl, posted a photo for a dating site, in which she hid in the branches of trees — and only her nose is visible! 🙂 It is difficult to assess her face and figure from such a photo. Choose a photo that highlights your beauty. It is worth posting not one photo, but four or five. It is advisable to select different photos: summer, winter, business, home.
Time! As far as I remember, dating on the Internet took me a LOT of time. Therefore, if you are determined to find a suitable man there, then you need to allocate twenty to thirty minutes a day for this (or maybe more). And if you go to the site once a month for five minutes, then this is unlikely to give the desired result.
What to say, what to ask? Ask a lot of open-ended questions that are difficult to answer with a simple “yes” or “no” and that are easy to answer in detail. For example, a question might be: “if you had a vacation in the near future, how would you spend it?”. And different men will respond in different ways, from “lying on the couch at home” to “going to the ski slope in Austria.” And you yourself decide what is closer and more interesting to you. But don’t judge by just one answer, ask more questions. Discuss films known to him and to you. But not just «liked» — «did not like» the film as a whole. And what specifically for him in the film was especially interesting? Maybe the film is a favorite overall, but you love the moments of romance between the characters in it, and he remembered the fights and showdowns.
I hope that before you go to a dating site, you have decided on who you want to find ideally there. And then ask questions again! What character traits are important to you in a man? What kind of activity? What is important and critical when choosing a man, then ask.
But do not frighten and do not make an interrogation out of a pleasant conversation. An interesting task is to create a pleasant atmosphere and find out everything you want to know, and at the same time tell about yourself. Well, for example, like this: “this morning I watched the best numbers of KVN in the archives of the Internet, I got a lot of pleasure. What shows do you like?» And now you have already said that you love KVN, and created a reason to find out what he is watching. The same can be said about friends, and about work, and about your favorite hobbies. And you reveal about yourself, and you will find out about him. And you can already watch how he builds a dialogue, what he likes to talk about.
Learn day by day about the mood. If every time everything sucks — then it’s worth thinking about. Although it happens that this is just such a period in life (short-term period), or maybe it’s always bad for him, and people are always bad — and here again do you need a whiner.
On the site you can learn to communicate. It didn’t work out pleasantly to chat with twenty on the site — it doesn’t matter — it will work out with the twenty-first. Dating sites are not a magic wand, but a good opportunity to meet a lot of those men who are also looking for a relationship! And then it’s an interesting task from this set to choose the one that suits you, and become suitable for him. Good luck!
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