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Your words have great power. And your appearance, such as it is, will also be the most attractive for someone. But how do you stand out from the crowd of online dating seekers? How to attract attention to yourself, arouse a desire to know more about you?
1. Positive
“I don’t know why I’m here, but what the hell is not kidding.” Great start.
Another hit is “I don’t believe in online dating at all.” But you came here and for some reason decided to tell the world about yourself with this phrase. To stand out and draw attention to yourself, feel like a journalist and the hero of your own story.
The beginning should catch, intrigue, arouse interest. Think about what part of your life is especially interesting – maybe it’s your job or hobby. Make a bold statement, one that you want to argue with. Write a phrase that guides you through life. Yes, not much else. Show your imagination!
2. Speak in your own words
For heaven’s sake, don’t use those endless adjectives – “I’m kind, caring, no bad habits”…
I remember for a long time the text on the page of one girl, which said right off the bat: “Put everything aside and listen here: I am the one that your mommy dreamed of!” Be bright, be yourself.
If writing about yourself is difficult, try to tell. Take your mobile phone and write down a short story about yourself on it as if you have already met the person you are looking for and are happy to tell him everything he does not know about you yet. You can start with some funny incident from your childhood, but at least with a joke. Then listen to everything again and write it down on paper. Reduce unnecessary.
3. My name is Greek God
Imagine that you are the owner of an advertising agency and you need to come up with a name for a new brand, so that the buyer will love it. “KariyeGlaza918” or “Annie”? He probably won’t be interested in either.
For example, a 50-year-old Englishman with Greek roots, the owner of an impressive tummy, ironically called himself on the Greek God dating site. An elderly woman who breeds bees chose the nickname Maya the Bee. At least it was a pleasure to read. The idea is that you are not just another pretty face on the screen out of thousands of pretty ones and not-so-cute ones.
4. Ask a friend
For some reason, such a simple technique does not often come to mind. Ask a friend, and preferably three, and preferably a male: “Do you think my text and my photo can attract attention?”, “Am I on them like in life?”, “Would you like to be with me meet if you read it?”.
The way we see ourselves sometimes doesn’t match the way others see us. It often happens that we choose rather strange photographs in which we seem beautiful to ourselves, and leave aside really bright pictures.
5. Honesty is also a way to get attention.
If you are 52, do not write that you are 48. Moreover, the difference is small, no matter how you look at it.
Either you are awfully old for 20-year-olds, or you are already in the prime of life for “their own.” Do not write this eternal phrase: “I am told that I look much younger than my age.” Be proud of who you are and where you are.
6. Don’t be rude
Being honest about who you’re looking for is one thing, being rude is another, and the line that separates one from the other is pretty clear.
One of the best quoted phrases I read was: “Step by if you…” And then followed a list of characteristics of those unfortunate women who were denied access to the page owner.
Between us, middle-aged people, how many of us have come close enough to the ideal over the years to write like this?
7. Untold
Let us remind you that dating on the Internet is not a school “confessor”, not LiveJournal and not a speech in the society of Alcoholics Anonymous. Something must remain unsaid.
You will tell about everything to your chosen one when you are alone with him. In the meantime, do not hang all your skeletons from the closet for all to see, find a more suitable place for them.
8. Check your spelling
Some typos look cute, but there are also people who will find you lazy or sloppy. In any case, it is quite possible to check spelling now, and in personal correspondence, if you press the wrong key by mistake, write after the correct version of the word – this is a simple manifestation of respect for the interlocutor.
And it’s so nice to immediately ask your future acquaintance such a leisurely manner and respectful tone.
9. Expect the Unexpected
If you find yourself consistently attracting the same type of men, you may need to change your search parameters. Pay attention not only to the fact that you both like to cook or listen to the same artists. Do not refuse those whose appearance is not so brilliant at first glance.
You are here to seek, and therefore to experiment. As Oscar Wilde said, “Expect the unexpected.” And as Winston Churchill said – never, never, never give up!