Dare to be yourself

Neo-Hinduism guru Osho wrote: “A person is born with a soul, but not with a personality. Although all dictionaries will say that these two words – “soul” and “personality” – are synonymous, this is not true. You bring your soul with you. Personality is created by society as a substitute so that you don’t feel completely devoid of identity…because the search for the soul may require many years of pilgrimage, searching and research and it is impossible at this time to endure namelessness, emptiness, remain nobody.

In childhood, parents and teachers impose on us who we should be. Then we continue to set ourselves invented goals and limitations under the pressure of public opinion. We become dependent on the approval of others. We are developing as a person. Gradually, she, like a suit, sticks to our skin. We forget about the search for the soul. In other words, stop being yourself.

The path to yourself requires courage, you will have to leave your comfort zone, surprise or upset your loved ones. It’s the price you pay to write your own script and take the risk of finding your place in the world.

Of course, there is no magic recipe that will help you immediately stop acting and return to authenticity. Such a rebirth requires constant training, control and concentration. Sarah Serjevic in her book offers five techniques to help you get on the path to finding yourself.

1. Prepare for the test

Go through the test mentally first. Resigning from a role is a stressful situation. Therefore, you need to prepare your brain for it.

First, remember the conflict that was not resolved in your favor. Scroll through the whole situation again in your head, but according to your own scenario, with a favorable outcome for you. Think over everything to the smallest detail – your posture, gestures, words, the reaction of your interlocutor. Think everything through to achieve a positive result for you.

This will teach the brain to overcome stressful situations, and you will become more confident in yourself, because in this case for the brain there is not much difference between a fictional situation and a real one.

2. Replenish internal resources

Inner resources feed on success and the behavior that led to it. They are also expressed in talents that we do not use, and in the inner voice that we do not always want to hear.

Pleasant memories can replenish internal resources and establish a connection with them. Especially from childhood. Think of your grandparents who supported you, the teacher who believed in you, and so on. The memory is activated and will give you new sources of recovery.

Symbols that you believe in – a tree, an animal, a commemorative talisman, a religious attribute – also help to gain inner strength. Memories and symbols belong only to you, you endow them with a secret meaning, which means they return your identity to you. Contact them more often.

3. Look from the side

Think about what you do not like in your current life. Work, goals, projects, reactions. To get out of the cocoon of personality, imagine that you are your best friend, common sense, clear and frank. What would you advise yourself to do and change?

Talk to yourself about it. Write down the answers so you don’t forget. Listen to your true self. Now, with a fresh look at your personality, you can choose a different path, a different way of behaving. Try to gradually make positive changes in your life. Decide what you want for yourself.

4. Breathe and meditate

Set aside time each day for breathing exercises and/or meditation. It will only be your time. A unique opportunity to stop, listen to yourself, turn away from pressing problems and think about your aspirations, desires and goals.

In addition, it is a way to reboot the nervous system and saturate the brain with oxygen.

5. Play a scene

Imagine some situation that has not yet happened, but which can radically change your life. You finally quit your job and tell your boss about it, or you suggest that your partner have children, or you tell your loved ones that you are moving to another country.

Say out loud everything that is in your heart. Emotions experienced “live” will open access to new sensations. Perhaps you will feel relief, excitement, freedom.

You will also feel safe. You will understand that in this situation there is nothing to worry about. The sky does not fall to the ground. Such a rehearsal will help to gain the integrity of the body, emotions and thoughts. And this is the key to success.