A family psychologist tells how family conflicts develop and illustrates his words with examples. Very telling examples.
When asked by journalists what is the most common cause of family quarrels, John Gottman, an American psychologist and founder of the Institute for Relations Research, invariably answers: “No, all quarrels arise from scratch.” Why, nevertheless, even with the warmest, closest relations, partners sometimes find a reason to be angry with each other, which sometimes leads to minor quarrels, and sometimes to serious conflicts? Dr. Gottman has been counseling couples with relationship problems for many years. Based on his conversations and observations, he wrote a wonderful practical guide for anyone who wants to maintain and strengthen relationships. In simple tests and clear tables, the secrets of harmonious relationships are revealed. The main poison that poisons the magic of love, Gottman considers betrayal (and gives ten more of its types in addition to physical betrayal), and the most effective antidote is trust. The examples of marital dialogues given in the book, in themselves, perfectly illustrate the mechanism of the origin of misunderstandings, and together with Gottman’s comments, generalizations and advice, they make up an excellent textbook of harmony, the skills of which, it turns out, are very easy to learn!
Peter, 304 p.