Film «Amelie»
The loud cry of a child confidently attracts the attention of others.
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Crying is often used by children (and older children) to get attention. In this case, in crying, first of all, sound and facial expressions are relevant: the sound itself attracts attention, and facial expressions show that this is Suffering, and for example, not laughter (outwardly, they are very similar).
And tears are often absent with such crying, and this is the simplest sign that distinguishes crying as a cure for pain from crying as a means of influencing parents or others around.
Reorientation of the goal of «getting attention»
Reorientation in this case consists of four stages.
- Do not look into the eyes of a child whose behavior you do not like.
- Don’t talk to him.
- Do something to make your child feel loved. It is best to pat him on the back or hair. Don’t pat him on the head, because that’s pretty humiliating.
- Get down to business immediately, go through the first three stages — do not look into the eyes, do not say a word, do something to make the child feel loved as soon as his behavior starts to annoy you.
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