Criticism is offensive and unfair: what to do with it?

Culture is not peculiar to everyone, and from many people and more than once you will once hear both stupid and offensive remarks. If possible, it is better to skip such rubbish criticism without even discussing it. «The dogs bark, the caravan moves on.» Do your best, and don’t waste time arguing with those who criticize you for no reason, without understanding, or just settling scores.

The situation is much more difficult when unfair and offensive criticism is addressed to you from your boss or elders. How to react to it? — In any case, start by doing as you are told, all the more likely that this is not criticism that is not fair, and you do not understand everything about what is happening. The boss or senior often knows better. Another thing is the offensive form of remarks to you — yes, this is not the point. If the relationship with them is good, after all, you can ask for comments in a more acceptable form for you. It is often very helpful to state in plain text how you can be criticized so that you perceive it as normal. And if your relationship is problematic, then instead of being offended by an unpleasant form of criticism in your direction, think about the main thing: can the relationship be changed? Or — what else to do to change the situation as a whole?

And a very special situation when unfair criticism in an offensive form sounds from a loved one. It is clear that everyone has emotions, that this does not characterize your relationship as a whole, but it is still not worth encouraging. If the person next to you is still adequate, how to respond to offensive and unfair criticism in your direction?