Masturbation is often seen as a practice that can only be done in solitude, or even as something selfish. However, there are different ways to integrate masturbation into your relationship, whether alone or in pairs, for everyone’s pleasure.

It is completely normal and common to masturbate, even when you are in a relationship. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you stop masturbating. On the contrary: as we will see, masturbation is a sexual practice that can very well be integrated into your married life and your erotic environment, practiced alone (e) two. Alone, masturbation has many advantages: it allows you to maintain a libido and a constant desire, to respond to personal fantasies, and quite simply to indulge yourself when you want, the way you want. When we practice masturbation alone, we are the sole master of our mind and our fantasies. It is then an intimate and privileged moment of personal pleasure, which in no way competes with his life as a couple.

Masturbating is extremely beneficial for your sex life and personal development. Indeed, practiced alone, masturbation (female and male) allows you to know how your body works and to better understand your desire. It is by going to the discovery of his intimacy, thanks to his hands or with the help of objects such as sextoys, that we can understand what pleases us and how to achieve pleasure. Thus, when we give ourselves pleasure, we increase our chances of experiencing it later, in our relationship. A person who controls his body and knows his intimacy will be able to better guide his or her partner during sexual intercourse. Ultimately, masturbation therefore allows you to have a more fulfilling sexuality.

Do you want to integrate masturbation into your married sex life? Don’t hesitate to talk to your partner about it. Often considered taboo, masturbation is a subject that is little talked about, especially among couples. However, it is by confiding in your spouse that you will be able to tell him or her about your desires. You can start by talking to her about your lonely practices, how you are feeling, and why you are doing it. Then, tell him what you would like him to do to you, whether you want to masturbate in front of him or her, etc. Masturbation should never be seen as something to hide, and may very well become a common sexual practice in your daily life.

As we saw above, it is possible to integrate masturbation into your two-person sex life. Self-stimulation is not just for solitary pleasures. Indeed, it is quite possible to caress each other in the presence of the other. These caresses can for example act as foreplay, exciting partners. In women, stimulation of the clitoris, vaginal or anal penetration, or even the use of a sex toy can help to awaken desire gradually. In men, manual stimulation of the penis or testicles can also be masturbatory practices. But masturbation can also constitute the sexual act in itself. Indeed, one can quite envisage reaching orgasm in an individual way, by exchanging for example caresses and kisses.

Many women masturbate using sex toys. These come in several models and shapes, depending on the area to be stimulated: vagina, clitoris, anus, vulva, etc. Some of these toys can also be controlled remotely, using a remote control. Finally, there are also sextoys for men, which stimulate the penis or the anus. If you are used to using this type of object to masturbate, they can be a good way to integrate the practice of masturbation within your relationship. Thanks to their playful aspect, they allow you to spice up relationships and give a revival to the way you make love with your partner. Here again, the key remains dialogue: if you feel like trying your hand at sex toys, it is best to speak clearly to your partner.