There is no miracle recipe to make a romantic relationship last, otherwise we would know! Love is obviously the essential ingredient for the durability of the couple, but it is not enough. Do you want it to last? Put the odds in your favor by nourishing your love story with these 10 very important ingredients!

Kindness

Benevolence is, as its name suggests, ensuring the well-being of others. If you care about him / her, you should try to act and behave in a way that does not hurt him / her. This is not always easy, especially in the event of an argument, but kindness allows you to maintain the bond with your partner and helps to build your relationship on a healthy basis. Concretely, it is about listening to others to hear their needs and thus live with them better. This does not mean that we should understand them, because in a relationship we do not always agree with what the other is asking. This is where communication within the couple takes on all its importance. It is through this mutual effort of listening and dialogue that the benevolence of one towards the other can be expressed.

Trust

Confidence is one of the hardest things to gain. Trusting others does not happen overnight. It is a daily job but once it is acquired, a certain serenity settles in the couple. To trust the other is not to be afraid that he / she will hurt us, disappoint us or betray us. The learning of mutual trust in the couple inevitably passes through the benevolence (we come back to it!), The sincerity and the independence of each one within the same relationship. Be careful, to have confidence in the other, you must first have confidence in yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, how do you believe in the other? 

Trust is therefore a precious element in all relationships, but particularly in the couple. When there is no trust or when it is broken by an infidelity for example, it is then difficult to continue the relationship in a serene way.

Concessions and Compromises

In a couple, when one of the two makes a concession, it means that he ends up accepting the other’s position, even if he does not agree, in order to end the conflict. So he makes the effort to put his opinion aside for the sake of the relationship. While making a compromise is about finding a mutual arrangement that works for both members of the couple. In this case, neither of them feels aggrieved. 

Concessions and compromises are necessary in a couple because they allow disagreements to be put to an end without them degenerating. Be careful, concessions should not be systematic, especially if they always come from the same person. In the long term, it may no longer bear to have to always give in and therefore never to be heard.

Our selection

In a relationship for several years, you see a certain routine taking hold that is in the process of extinguishing the enthusiasm of the beginnings. Don’t just sit back and react! The couple, it talks. If rituals are useful for strengthening bonds, novelty also has its place. Try new activities, take a trip to new horizons, make short and medium term plans. Take the opportunity to surprise the other with something new. The novelty is the best barrier to boredom in the couple.

Passion

Passionate love is characteristic of recent couples. It tends to fade over the years to give way to reason love, a normal transition in lasting couples. But it may fail after a while. This is why we should not hesitate to bring touches of passion in the couple to rekindle the flame. Hot intimate moments, vacations for two in a heavenly place, thrilling activities … Put the odds on your side to awaken the passion in your couple.

Complicity

To be accomplices is to understand each other at a glance. This alchemy is precious (and often makes people envious!) Because it shows that in addition to love, the two members of the couple are united by a great friendship. It is this complicity that allows the couple to last when the passion withers.

Humor

Taking yourself too seriously only stirs up tensions. Laughing together promotes relaxation and complicity. It contributes to the well-being of the couple since it drives out tensions, stress and disagreements. If you want it to last, never stop laughing with your other half!

Demonstrations of love

Loving yourself is good, showing it is even better! These demonstrations go through tenderness and small attentions on a daily basis. The kisses, the tender gestures, the looks, the caresses are just as many signs of affection which strengthen the bonds in the couple. They must be reciprocal, otherwise there is always one who will be frustrated, because in demand. This does not mean that you have to be on top of each other all the time. We would then be in the merger, a normal phase at the beginning of the relationship but stifling if it lasts too long. In addition to gestures, being interested in others (their work, passions, culinary tastes, etc.) is also part of demonstrations of love.

Freedom

Living moments together is essential to make the couple last. But allowing yourself moments without the other is also necessary. Being in a couple is not “being one”, it is building a unique relationship with each other’s particularities (faults, qualities, education, past experiences, etc.). However, to be able to exist as an individual within the couple, each must be able to flourish without the other. Hence the need to maintain a certain independence. You do not exist only through your couple!

Support

Expressing support for others in good times as well as in bad times promotes their well-being and therefore the long-term relationship. By helping your partner to move forward thanks to your support, you contribute to their development and this inevitably affects your relationship as a couple.