Siblings always get along more or less well. Managing conflicts between siblings is therefore an almost daily task for parents. To do this, many solutions exist. Some rely on authority, others on communication.

Conflicts between siblings are all different. We must therefore take the time to understand each situation in order to manage it as best as possible. Sometimes the youngest come to annoy the older ones, sometimes it is the older ones who taunt or ignore the younger ones. Children may fight over a toy or just because they are too tired. To understand the conflict, each child needs to share their side of the story and explain why they are angry.

Children may have difficulty finding their place. They think that parental love is something that is divided between siblings. To reassure children, it is imperative to make them understand that there is no difference between them.

La jealousy must be understood by parents. The youngest envy the freedom of their elders and the older ones envy the attention parents have for the little ones. By explaining to each child that their age has a big impact on the parents’ attitude towards them, it is possible to reduce tensions. We must also accept that children feel jealousy. It is a very natural feeling that builds each person.

Managing conflicts between brothers and sisters well also means taking into account the age of each child. Many bickering is related to the age of different family members. They are more numerous when a child gains autonomy. In toddlers, the first steps often engender the anger of the older ones who see their toys and their belongings disappear!

Around the age of 6, children leave kindergarten for high school. They were the biggest and are becoming the smallest. They also leave childhood and play for learning. This period is difficult and it can sometimes be felt at home. Children abandon their younger siblings considered too young for the benefit of the elders. The sibling’s balance is weakened.

Entering adolescence is also a difficult stage which can harm the understanding between brothers and sisters. It is essential for parents to be patient and to support their children in the best possible way as they enter their adulthood.

Conflict and bickering can be unpleasant, but it shouldn’t be avoided automatically. On the contrary ! They help children to find their place, to forge and show their personality, and finally to gain respect. Most bickering, moreover, only lasts a short time.

It is imperative to intervene when children come to blows, when they insult each other, when they damage their belongings or when the conflict lasts too long. Before punishing, it is necessary to identify the cause of the conflict and the responsibility of each child. So the rebuke will be measured!

The punishment chosen is very important. It is essential to adapt it to the age of the child and the importance of stupidity. Most of the time, you have to give the same punishment and stay flexible. For example, it is possible to isolate each child for a few minutes or ask them to tidy their room or the playroom. Each child should apologize if he hurt his brother or sister, but also if he broke a toy. Apologies can be verbal or in the form of a drawing.

Vigilance is required when it comes to punishments. When it is impossible to know the truth about a conflict, limit the punishment or give a simple warning. Wrongly punishing can be very negative because it increases tensions between siblings.

To limit conflicts, you need to orient activities and focus on those that appeal to everyone. Thus the moments of understanding are more numerous. These moments must be underlined, congratulated and why not rewarded. The moments spent together promote good understanding between brothers and sisters and also limit conflicts.

Being fair in the event of conflicts between siblings is essential to ensure good understanding among siblings and in the family. You have to know how to let children interact with each other but also know how to punish them in order to make everyone understand their responsibilities.