It has boiled so much. A dad, who is forced to raise a child alone, is terribly annoyed that he is considered a bad parent – simply because he is not a mom.
Almost all women believe that mom is more important to a child than dad. Of course, they are right – this is a purely physiological truth, against which you cannot argue. Therefore, often, especially in Russia, mothers gently but persistently push fathers away from raising children. Abroad, this tendency of dads is so annoying that the fathers united and created the Don’t Forget Dads project – “Don’t Forget Dads”. They do their best to convey to society the idea that the father is not some kind of babysitter who can occasionally be instructed to sit with the child, but the parent. Even so – the Parent. With a capital letter. Nothing worse than mom.
But this is abroad. In our country, this is still a long way off. But the trend has already emerged. Proof of this is the cry of the soul of a single father, which we found on the Internet. The young dad told the portal anonymously “», What kind of discrimination from mothers faces almost every day.
“I am a single father, and I have wildly bombing. It so happened that the wife died in childbirth. I had to quit my job. Of course, I am not sitting around – I found a part-time job at home. Income fell, but I could not think of anything else. My mother also helps me with the child, ”the man begins.
The father walks with the child himself: he puts the baby in a kangaroo and goes to wind kilometers through the squares. It’s hard to walk for a long time. But sitting down on a bench can even be scary: as soon as you sit next to mommy with a child, it begins …
“For some reason, every young mother is sure that she is obliged to share with me the mother’s wisdom:“ Oh, you don’t wear it correctly. He is so pressed. Where is his mom? “,” What are you … getting vaccinated? Don’t you know that … “,” Breast milk is better than formula. Why don’t you feed him with breast milk? “
“I noticed that every child is obliged to endure my brain with the ‘correct’ upbringing of a child at a time when her own child smears his face with cat feces or, for some unknown reason, smashes someone else’s scooter on the asphalt.” Father’s irritation shows through every line. However, it is quite understandable. It’s not only dad here – here and mom would have been torn from anger.
According to his father, especially for such curious and intrusive, he made himself something like a memo. And when they pester him with unsolicited advice and recommendations, climb up with questions, hand over these stereotyped answers to the interlocutor.
“There are all the answers to standard questions. For example: “I feed with a formula, because I cannot drain milk from my breast,” “Yes, I know about the consequences of DPT, but I will still vaccinate the child, and so on,” says the dad.
According to him, moms are terribly offended by such a reaction. But this only pleases the man. “This is the best guarantee that I will no longer be treated like a crooked hand,” he explains. And he addresses all mothers of the planet: “Girls, stop suffering from idiocy. If a person has short hair, no protruding breasts and other female sexual characteristics, this does not mean that he does not know how to take care of children. “