Interacting with others is simple and comfortable when we understand what is happening to us, we are aware of our internal reactions to what is happening, we accept ourselves and consider it normal to say everything as it is, without trying to meet other people’s expectations.
Telling the truth is very simple, it makes any communication easy and open. You don’t need to think every minute how to say so, in order to evade responsibility, not cause negativity and make an impression, how best to ask, so as not to lose face, how to resist, so as not to give out your true feelings and not be weak and vulnerable. This requires only the ability to track your states, feelings, desires, and the courage to be yourself, take care of yourself, love yourself.
Feeling confused or confused, do not force yourself to quickly get together and say something smart with a confident look. It’s more important to tell the truth: “Listen, I’m confused, I don’t know what to answer …”
When we are actively offered something, but we do not want it, we should not resort to excuses, but immediately tell the interlocutor: “I heard your offer. Thanks, but that doesn’t work for me.» It’s pretty stupid to take what you don’t need just to avoid embarrassment.
If we said something and then felt regret, sincerely express it: «I’m sorry, I said something stupid, I got excited.» We do not need any feeling of guilt, and we correct mistakes without leaving the cash register in order to live with an easy soul.
“You know, it looks like you were right, now I agree with you” — this is not defeat, but loyalty to yourself and flexibility
Once you feel irritated, don’t wait for it to get out of control. It is better to mark the boundaries in time, pointing out what is unpleasant in the actions or words of the interlocutor.
When something is not clear in the speech of the other — for example, the words that he uses — instead of silently nodding, afraid of looking stupid, it is worth asking clarifying questions. Dialogue is more important than a meaningless conversation that gives nothing but stress.
Do not be shy to express your opinion, even if others do not agree with it. You can always change your mind and change your point of view under the influence of new information or a fresh look. We can easily say, “You know, it looks like you were right, now I agree with you,” and this will not be defeat, but self-confidence and flexibility.
If we do not know the answer to the question asked, this is not a reason to be ashamed and say the first thing that comes to mind. It is better to admit that we do not understand this issue. We do not have to know about everything in the world, and this is impossible.