An ordinary girl will never, without prompting, ask a man the most important, most serious question about the prospects for their relationship: “Tell me, please, how many years will you love me? Number? Can you tell me the number of years I can count on?»
Girls hardly understand such questions, and men — adults and serious men — understand such a question completely. Commitment «Ten years» — a man’s obligation to a woman that for 10 years he will be attentive, caring and loving to her.
The Ten Years Commitment is not only a commitment of formal fidelity, it is a commitment of love: attentive, joyful and caring every day.
Men have creative impulses and hobbies, and a woman needs stability, especially if they want a child. It is normal and correct if a woman asks an interested man for such an obligation. If a man cannot give a woman such an obligation, then a self-respecting woman will not seriously mess with him: this is not a husband and not a father.
How realistic is such an obligation, can it be trusted? It depends on the type of personality and the level of development of the personality. For example, such an obligation is unrealistic for a hysteroid and a psychasthenic, and for a person with a paranoid personality pattern, such obligations are more realistic. More important, however, is the level of personality development and the predominant type of love associated with it. A romantic youth with an unformed character is incapable of fulfilling such obligations. A mature and mentally rich man, who has determined his values, is capable of such love, for him love as a choice is a reality. If a man is ready for a serious relationship, it is not difficult and natural for him to give such an obligation.
It is possible to ask such an obligation from a man, but it is pointless to ask such an obligation from a woman. On the one hand, a woman is more interested in a family than a man, and if a man really behaves decently in a family, she will not run away from him anywhere. And on the other hand, if the family is not very good and the woman wants to leave, then the obligations for the woman usually mean less than for the man, and the woman will decide the issue once emotionally, and once out of everyday considerations.