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Many of us feel uncomfortable at a wedding, especially if there is no companion or partner next to us. The therapist draws attention to four ways to feel better in this difficult day.
Once at the wedding, many feel out of place. Especially if you came without a friend or partner. How not to get lost and not to be sad in the festive crowd?
Everything has its time
Wedding… For lovers, the most important day of their lives is coming. And what do the invited guests think about looking at them? Many of us certainly compare our lives to this dazzling moment, and some may come to disappointing conclusions. “But this is not the finish line, which we must reach by all means first,” recalls psychotherapist Denise Knowles (Denise Knowles), a relationship specialist in couples. “Sometimes part of your life journey becomes part of the journey of others.” There is a time for everything, so do not rush yourself or blame yourself for being “late”. There is no competition here, so there are no winners or losers. You are on a holiday from which you have every right to enjoy.
Relationships between young people are not ideal
“The fact that two people are standing at the altar does not in itself guarantee that they have a cloudless relationship,” notes the psychotherapist. “Getting married can’t make everything magically fall into place. Putting other people’s relationships on a pedestal, we make them something unattainable for ourselves. But that’s not the case.» Love and marriage are part of a long relationship history, not a gold medal given to honors students.
There is always a topic for conversation
Are you worried that you will have to make small talk with strangers for no reason at all? However, the wedding itself provides a great topic for conversation — this is a happy couple! “You can talk about the ceremony, about the treat, about how you met the bride and groom,” the therapist suggests. The same can be asked of any potential interlocutor.
You are part of the holiday too
By inviting you to their wedding, young people show that a relationship with you is important to them. “They ask you to witness their union and support them in the future,” says Denise Knowles. “Think of this day as a pact you make with them, just as they make a pact with each other.”
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