Smiling is a sign that you can build a close relationship with a person.
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Close relationships happen — with respect and easily.
Close relationship with respect — calmly naturally (without apology) claim yours, but every time I ask permission. It seems to be yours, but you already allowed me without loss. Respect gives greater security, but it also, in particular, kills desire …
No prohibition — no passion, no delight …
It’s easy — when I give you what’s mine, and take yours from you, and then we have everything in common now. With respect without ceremony — more freedom, and that’s good, but a greater danger of losing something valuable, and that’s bad. Proximity in general is the prerogative of the strong: going for proximity, I am ready for the fact that they can hurt me and scratch me.
Because of the obvious danger, relationships are easily — usually superficial, that is, not everything is made common, but what is not a pity. Hidden — usually remains mine. But deep relationships, relationships with those closest to you — relationships when you trust the concealed, hidden. See Proximity
Close people, manipulation and blackmail
You can often hear: «If loved ones are blackmailing, then they are no longer close.» One might think… Checking life for strength, children from early childhood manipulate their parents and blackmail them.
To see this, it is enough in each case to try to understand: “How and why, or rather to whom and why, does the child cry?”
But this is not a reason to consider children not people close to us and not build close relationships with them. See →