Close people are those who are serious about my emotions, are controlled by my emotions and at the same time those whose emotions are dear are important to me (whose emotions I control).
Close people, manipulation and blackmail
You can often hear: «If loved ones are blackmailing, then they are no longer close.» One might think… Checking life for strength, children from early childhood manipulate their parents and blackmail them.
To see this, it is enough in each case to try to understand: “How and why, or rather to whom and why, does the child cry?”
But this is not a reason to consider children not people close to us and not build close relationships with them. See →
Close people and the hormone oxytocin
Oxytocin causes a feeling of satisfaction, a decrease in fears and anxieties, a feeling of trust and calm next to a partner: a person who was perceived as a close person. The moment of “close relationships” turned out to be important: in the experiments, after the nasal administration of oxytocin, the subjects more easily believed what they were told by close people, while the perception of words from “just strangers” did not change. Moreover, subsequent experiments have shown that oxytocin increases hostility towards strangers, reinforces cultural and racial prejudice.