Children’s position

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A child’s position is once a conscious, and once just a habitual choice of perception and response, characteristic of children. Situationally, the child’s position is cute and appropriate, the position of children in life turns into infantilism. People of all ages who have children’s interests, habits and outlook on life are in a child’s position.

As a rule, this is life in the status of an organism, not a person, in a collision with requirements — the position of the victim and irresponsibility, dependent moods, the philosophy of the parasite, the unaccustomed to think and work. Tendency to worry, increased emotionality, love of entertainment, The main principle is the principle of pleasure, favorite topics: “I like it — I don’t like it”, “I love it — I don’t like it”, “it’s nice” for me or “unpleasant” (watch the video “Amelie” ). A tendency to egocentrism and centropupism, great impulsiveness and little awareness of behavior.

How are these children brought up? At least some children have the inclinations to live the rest of their lives basically in a childish position. Such people are born to live as children all their lives. It is possible to redo it, but it is difficult — they are drawn to this, as a gifted person is drawn to realize his giftedness. A large part acquires the habit of a childish position due to not quite correct education. The development of the habit of being in a childish position is facilitated both by the complete deprivation of independence, and by the provision of premature or too much independence.

The two main forms of child position are Child and Disabled. Disabled people demonstrate helplessness, sit on their necks and demand to be carried through life. The child is looking for fun.

More, Fun Seeking Baby also has options, for example Cute Creative Baby is one thing and Bully is another. Cute creative kids, for all their once helplessness, behave in such a way that they delight and entertain themselves and adults. Hooligan — turning off his head, having fun at the expense of others. The Disabled also exists in several variants, such as the Unfortunate Helpless Victim or the Grateful for Help. The victim creates a sense of guilt and forces her to serve. Grateful for help captivates with sincere gratitude for help, causes a desire to help.

The childish attitude is predominantly the negative aspects of the inner Child. The inner child builds a childish position in relation to his affairs and duties, the usual childish position maintains a person in the state of the inner Child. At the same time, it seems that the child’s position is connected with the position not only of the Inner Child, but also of the Inner Parent. There is a hypothesis that the negative aspects of the Inner Parent can be safely attributed to the child’s position, namely: The mother hen is an irresponsible child who has fun playing a busy, responsible and tired Parent.

There are phrases by which it is easy to recognize children: people of different ages who are in a childish position. These are phrases and phrases: Difficult, Fear, I’m afraid, I’m shy, I’m confused… I don’t know how… It’s a shame, It’s a pity, I’m tired, I want it or I don’t want it, I’m not interested or I’ve lost my self-confidence… — How to relate to such a dictionary? It’s not always bad. Such phrases from the lips of a cute creative kid are a joy, a cute and developing little man often wants to help. It is normal if these are the phrases of a Woman — men are pleased to show their strength, wealth and care next to them. If these are the phrases of the Disabled Person, and even more so of the Victim, you should not fall for it. If these phrases are yours, track in what situations and in what role you use them. If you lack a Sweet Child, use such phrases more often, evoke kind smiles and warm feelings for you. If you have ever played the role of the Victim and do not always notice it, these phrases will be good beacons for you — attention, stop!

The childish position is beautiful as long as it is provided by the parents, but turns into a tragedy when faced with adulthood. Sooner or later, the child physically grows up and leaves the world of loved ones into adulthood: to college, to the army or to work. And he is faced with a situation where people are increasingly reacting to him differently than their relatives used to, he is faced with the fact that his emotions and the feelings of people simply do not care! Some people understand that childhood is over and grow up internally, the other part remains children for the rest of their lives. See →

Adults are independent people and are used to solving their problems at their own expense. They have different values, a different vocabulary and a different way of thinking: they like to do business, they often think about what works, what effectively helps to solve problems and achieve the goal, and what does not work and is not effective.