“Children as the meaning of the existence of a family…” “A family is created for the birth and upbringing of children…”
Pros of this approach:
- the family has a common goal, a common activity — this unites and strengthens relationships.
- the child receives more care and attention
Cons of this approach:
- husband and wife take care of each other to a lesser extent, lose in care, attention, sex, etc. (see Languages of love)
- the child, taking advantage of his importance to his parents, begins to manage them and becomes the head of the family
- the mother, taking advantage of her greater closeness to the child, turns out to be «more important» than the father. A man loses his positions in the family, turns out to be less interested in such a family;
- in the absence or loss of a child, such a family usually breaks up. If everything is fine with the child, then only for the time being, until the child has matured. When a child grows up, spouses usually do not understand what they should do now.
Materials from the forum
“I am also against making children the meaning of life, the meaning of the existence of the family, the embodiment and successors of their own ideas (as well as the correctors of their own jambs). This, in my opinion, is not useful primarily for the children themselves. They either start to want too much from them, or try to make something out of them that they are not intended for or something else … In addition, children may not be born or grow up … «⇒