As a child, when I was little, I was sure that all children have a childhood. Child and childhood are synonymous. While the child is small, he goes through his childhood, and the best thing is a happy, serene childhood, where there are toys, the opportunity to play and indulge, to play what you want and how much you want. The right to childhood is the natural right of any child. It `s naturally. Yes?
No.
Once upon a time in the history of mankind, namely many hundreds and thousands of years, children did not have any childhood. If you are not yet an adult, this does not mean that you have the right to special services: you do not have adult rights, that’s all. People lived for thousands of years without creating any special childhood for children and not seeing any need for it.
Actually, outside of modern European civilization, in particular, in the Caucasus, children still do not have childhood. There, children work almost on a par with adults from 2-3 years old. They are feasible, but without discounts for childhood, they are included in the household, help in the garden. For them, the best game is helping their parents. If you are 5 years old, then you are responsible for the younger, the younger ones obey the older one, all the best — to the adult and everyone works. We love mom, mom obeys dad, parents teach us to do business, and we work. Our big family is the production corporation «Our Family», where everyone lives as a single organism, everyone is busy and everyone works. What games, what childhood?
But over the past 150 years, the situation in our culture has begun to change. Today, every good parent knows that he must ensure the happiness of his child. A child must be loved, that is, our baby must have everything and do nothing for it. He will have a difficult life later, when he grows up, let’s create an easy life for him at least now! Everything must be done for the child, because he is small and it is difficult for him. We will tie his shoelaces, adjust his hat and put a mitten on his hand so that he does not freeze. If he wants a toy, we will buy him, and if he wants a lot of toys, we will buy a lot of toys. Loving parents will buy you everything! All for you, as long as you don’t cry! A child needs to be pitied, and if he is offended or scratched his knee, then let the poor thing cry, and we will take pity on him …
Childhood, as it has come to be understood now, is a very unfortunate notion. If a child in the very early years imprinted the idea that happiness lies in playing and doing nothing, then this is a bad idea. If he has learned that “since he is a child”, then he should be bought Coca-Cola and Kinder Surprise, then he gets used to the fact that everyone should serve him. If he is used to crying almost immediately and demanding everything he wants, he has acquired a bad temper with our help. If he turned out to be the center of the world around which grandma, mom and dad revolve, then such a child will no longer want to become an adult. Really, why would he give up the happiness of being a little boy being catered for by all those foolish adults? Why does a child need to grow up? Children are smart, and if you can stay small to get all the good things in life, smart kids stay small. That is, parasites accustomed to living at the expense of others.
And even when life will force our children to grow up, they will sigh heavily, still forced to work somewhere from Monday to Friday, and wait for the weekend to return to a happy childhood, to finally do nothing, entertain themselves and watch TV. After all, happiness is having fun and doing nothing, right? Happiness is not thinking about anything. Happiness is eating what you want and drinking what will make you feel very good now. After all, we have a right to happiness, right? If they are bored, they expect someone to cheer them up. When they get into trouble, they get upset and expect someone to solve all their problems for them. They feel sorry for themselves and look for those who will feel sorry for them. As in childhood!
Do you need such a son-in-law for your daughter? Do you need such a daughter-in-law for your son?
Parents, why are you laying such a mine under the lives of your children?
A happy childhood is a bad idea. In childhood, a child should not be supplied with happiness, but should be prepared for him to become a person: he learns to respect his elders, learns to be an elder and begins to understand that life is work. And a happy life is a favorite job. Proper childhood is a time when a child learns, not learns to mess around. This is the time when he learns to tie his own shoelaces, and does not learn to whine to have his mother tie his shoelaces. This is the time when your duty is not to entertain the child, but to prepare him for the future. Not to pity his unfortunate man when he fell and directly scratched his knee, but to teach him not to cry when he is faced with difficulties.
Look at the child not as a toy, but as your future employee. As someone who, having matured, will lead your company. Teach him now, while he is 4 years old, to think, not to lie and be responsible for his actions. Teach the older brother to take care of the younger brother and sister, and not just take care of — but be responsible for them. Teach the younger ones to obey the elders, teach the younger brother and sister to obey the older brother, because the will, as the ability to follow your own orders, begins with the fact that you have learned to follow the orders of other elders.
Prepare children for life, not for playing in the sandbox.