Hello, dear readers of the site! Today we will consider the demonstrative personality type according to Leonhard. And also find out what resources and limitations it has.
Main characteristic
By the name, it immediately becomes clear that such a person behaves defiantly, somewhat feignedly. And all in order to draw attention to his person.
Sometimes it seems that the main goal of her life is to stand out, to be different from the rest. And no matter what the cost, let them have to cry, faint, make scandals, wear extravagant outfits, lie, show off excessively, get unusual pets, and so on.
Representatives of the demonstrative type are even ready to commit an unseemly act, and sometimes commit a crime for the sake of gaining fame and fame. As they say, black PR is also PR. So, this is about them. Let the outside world hate, but talk about them, remember.
By the way, they lie so skillfully for the reason that they themselves believe in what they say. They get into the role so much that they themselves confuse where is fiction and where is reality.
And they also have a unique ability to forget what they are not interested in. Therefore, they do not accumulate resentment, do not get stuck in worries about mistakes made, and so on. But, if it is beneficial for them, at any moment they can “resurrect” some long-forgotten event in their memory.
So they have a protective mechanism called «repression». That which is capable of causing harm, the psyche displaces into the subconscious, as if hiding garbage in a far corner where a person usually does not look.
This, on the one hand, relieves anxiety, and on the other hand, the garbage does not go anywhere, it is simply hidden from prying eyes. Accordingly, periodically makes itself felt, for example, in nightmares.
Advantages and disadvantages
This type is good because he knows how to establish contact with any person. He quite easily merges into a new team, attracts and captivates.
Often becomes the ringleader in the company. But if someone dares to overthrow him from the «pedestal», underestimate the efforts, uniqueness and merits — that person will not do well. Conflict will simply be inevitable.
This is practically the only thing that can hurt a demonstrative personality so deeply, hurt a nerve. She will fall into hysterics, cry loudly, seek justice, protection from those who at that moment were nearby and witnessed the situation.
She also tends to commit rash acts, which often leads to negative results.
He does not like to work, because at such moments there is no attention, therefore he is constantly looking for ways to avoid fulfilling his duties. It is much more interesting to take care of yourself, turning ideas into reality that will attract even more fans.
The difficulty is that usually such people have little faith, especially when they fall into hysterics. But even if the reason for this behavior is fictional, the pain is real.
They really suffer at such a moment, as if some kind of hole has formed in the chest area, which cannot be laid with anything to make it easier. They seem to be calling for help, calming down from simple human participation.
Bragging makes it difficult to get recognition, as people take this kind of action with hostility, devaluing or ignoring the nuances that they are deliberately trying to point out. In simple terms, praise should be objective, that’s when it has weight.
Vanity in society is usually condemned and considered a negative trait. Although at the moments when this type of character accentuation praises himself, he gets real pleasure. He seems to revel in every uttered word, which makes it not so important for him whether others agree with him or not. The main thing is that they listened.
Detstvo
A child of a demonstrative type, in principle, is easy to recognize. He is like a little artist, acting out scenes, mostly in front of adults. Since peers are not yet particularly able to appreciate his talents, they are more passionate about games.
Although the closer to puberty, the more such children win recognition, they are interesting to listen to, especially hastily invented stories that pass off as quite real.
They are the balm for the soul of overly ambitious parents who at one time failed to achieve success in some particular area and now enjoy the compliments that they are given for raising such a unique person.
Which, by the way, gladly declares poems, standing on a chair, so that the public has the opportunity to see him in full. He sings, dances, and in extreme cases falls into hysterics because, as you remember, the main goal is to get attention, so any form of its manifestation will do, at worst, and punishment.
Although basically such a child can be safely called obedient and exemplary, since he is able to obey the requirements of adults, just to please them and receive a portion of love.
Does dirty tricks more often in relation to peers, trying to spoil their reputation, thus winning the competition. That is, dissolving gossip begins with school years.
He will behave defiantly until the teacher enters the class, and in just seconds he will turn into the sweetest and most obedient student.
Sometimes attempts to please elders cross all boundaries, and then the opposite effect arises — disgust from feigned flattery and helpfulness.
Professional activity
In the team they strive for leadership, because thanks to it they can achieve universal recognition. They are excellent speakers, so it is important to choose the appropriate field of activity.
As an example, monotonous and monotonous work can plunge into depression and despondency. The nervous system simply cannot withstand the tension that arises when it is necessary to commit violence against oneself, forcing one to work on what one does not like and irritates.
So you should choose a profession that involves communication, and not the ability to concentrate on one task.
By the way, they are not always ready to be responsible for their actions, which is why they can “pretend” to be sick if they want to avoid some kind of work, difficulties.
The service sector is ideal, as they know how to feel the needs and mood of the client, adjusting to it.
Suppose, working as a seller, they will always be focused on the buyer, even if at some point they have to sacrifice their own interests, renouncing themselves.
That is, with an authoritarian client they become obedient and timid, with shy clients, on the contrary, supportive and active.
Like chameleons, they adapt to the requirements of the environment, firmly believing that they are playing a role, which is why they strive to cope with it perfectly.
Completion
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Take care of yourself and be happy!
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina