Hello dear blog readers! To achieve success, no matter in what area, it is necessary not only to possess knowledge about yourself or others, but also to find resources and advantages in them in order to use and rely on at any appropriate moment. Therefore, today we will talk about who an introvert is and what his strengths are.
Characterization
From this article you should know about the different types of temperament, so we will not return to this issue, but we will immediately start with the characteristics of the introvert itself.
Key behavioral traits
- Their attention is turned deep into themselves, and it is thanks to their thoughts and feelings that they receive energy, in fact, being charged from them. And this does not mean that they are calm or slow, immersed in their thoughts. No, just such features of the psyche. To gain strength, they need to be alone with themselves, to think, to remember. Then the resource appears again to “go out into the world”, communicate, have fun, and so on.
- They are very active within themselves, so deep concentration on something is not difficult at all. From the outside, it may seem that a person is distracted and thinking about something extraneous, but in fact, deep work is taking place at this moment. He will soon give the result to the outside, as soon as he formulates and gives form to thoughts.
- Often among introverts are people with pedantic tendencies. They have everything clearly laid out on the shelves, clearly and understandably, any confusion causes a lot of tension.
- They are able to perform monotonous and painstaking work, and this activity brings pleasure. But if you set several tasks at once, anxiety will cause such a level of stress that it can “unsettle” you for a long time.
- Persistent and persistent, they usually show a creative approach in solving difficulties, sometimes even unique, thought out to the smallest detail.
- They like to observe, noticing details and small nuances that others would not pay attention to.
- They are not impulsive, so if they announced something, then be sure that the decision was made after very long deliberations.
- Most often they are owners of healthy self-esteem, because they comprehend their actions, character traits, realistically assessing the possibilities. It is very rare that you will meet an «arrogant» introvert.
- They do not “spray”, so if something is of interest, it will be studied as much as possible.
- When there is a large number of social contacts, they begin to feel oversaturation and a desire to retire as soon as possible in order to recover. Sometimes it comes to real nausea. Especially for those who have perfectly established a connection with the body, that is, they receive knowledge about themselves with the help of symptoms. So, so that there is no feeling that there is really too much communication, and you want to run away to hell and not see anyone, you should pay attention to the slightest signs of fatigue from others.
- They make true friends. In order to become a friend for an introvert, you will have to make a lot of effort and show perseverance and patience, because they do not let you close to them right away. The interlocutor may really like it, but due to his temperament, the introvert will not be able to communicate for a long time, wanting to take breaks to recover.
- They feel tension and that the energy “leaves”, leaving behind them fatigue even at those moments when they are simply in the same room with other people, without contact. I will give examples to make it clearer. An office in which there are many desktops at the same time will become hard labor for such people, they will be more comfortable in a small back room, but alone. At the university, especially during lectures, when they combine several groups at once, they experience stress simply from understanding that there are a large number of people around.
- Despite the fact that the characteristic of this species speaks of a certain aloofness and isolation, they are actually sensitive, sometimes vulnerable. Trying to cope with their emotions and tension, for those around them at this moment they look indifferent and not included in the process.
- They consider inner fullness to be the most important, and this is reflected in their appearance, to which they sometimes do not attach any importance at all. And it’s not just about the lack of bright and stylish clothes. They can afford to be untidy, dressed «out of place».
Advantages and strengths of this type of character
- Economy in terms of energy recovery. No troubles in life are capable of knocking the ground out from under your feet, because the source of strength is deep inside the personality itself. In this regard, it is more difficult for extroverts, who are fueled by communication and various events, they do not have such an internal resource.
- Less often, nervous disorders occur, unless of course you have to intersect with a large number of people every day. And the thing is that they lead a measured life, they manage to notice it, stop and enjoy it, noticing the world around and themselves in this world.
- More inclined towards self-development. Their strength lies in the fact that in case of difficulties they do not rush to change the outside world in order to become more comfortable. No, on the contrary, they come up with a way to adapt and adjust. And any changes within the personality inevitably entail changes in life. In addition, critical thinking encourages constant development.
- They are more stable in emotional manifestations, which is why conflict situations occur very rarely. They will weigh all the pros and cons, listen to themselves, and only then will they make claims, not allowing them to speak thoughtlessly and rashly.
- They know how to value relationships and, in general, another person, accepting them for who they are. And also enjoy such trifles as the sunrise, a drop of dew on the grass, the smell of freshly baked buns, and so on. Thanks to this ability, it is not necessary to make special efforts for a person to experience happiness, he knows how to find it in absolutely everything. In general, if you want honesty and sincerity, choose these completely non-mercantile people.
If you are an introvert and doubt yourself, I recommend reading the book: Marty Laney «Benefits of introverts». In this book, one of the leading American psychotherapists talks about the strengths of an introvert, and also gives practical advice on how to build relationships with different types of people.
Recommendations
How to communicate with people of this type of temperament?
The most important thing is not to push or demand instant action and quick reactions. If you do not forcibly burden such a person with your presence and expectation of frankness, then over time you will receive a wonderful gift of fate — a very close and sincere friend or loved one who will be faithful and devoted. Give him time to get used to, look at you.
How to be more efficient?
Due to a serious approach to various issues, they usually make balanced and correct decisions, only, unfortunately, at the same time they lose a huge number of opportunities. Therefore, it is important to pay attention to how to become more risky and easy to climb. If this is your friend, support him in his endeavors and attempts to present himself to the world.
How to see a valuable employee in them?
Often, due to fear and anxiety, they fail interviews, but if the manager turns out to be conscious and has information about human psychology, he will get a very valuable employee.
For example, even at school, children could get an unsatisfactory grade because they refused to answer, or “gathered” their thoughts for a long time, although they knew the subject very well, and attentive teachers could track that they were given written work much better than oral.
Try, if you notice that a person cannot cope with negotiations, speeches and other activities that involve publicity — do not fire him, but help him choose functions that are more comfortable for him, this will be useful not only for him, but will also bring success to the company in which he is working. For example, to master networking, because in correspondence there is not so much tension as in personal communication.
Sociopathy
Children should not be forced to go outside to play with others. Also require the partner to communicate with your friends, attend exhibitions and other events. After all, refusals do not mean that he is lazy or does not appreciate you, but that he is trying to “preserve” and defend himself. There is a very uncomfortable mental illness — social phobia.
In her case, a person completely refuses any communication, is afraid of condemnation, in his fantasies everyone negatively perceives him, and even a casual glance of a passerby will be regarded as disgust, criticism and dissatisfaction with him. It comes to the point that they quit work, study and do not leave the house. So do not inflict violence, so as not to provoke such a powerful and self-destructive defensive reaction.
How to deal with introverts?
- Try to listen without interrupting, because a person with this type of character may not show how your faux pas hurt him, and avoid contact in the future. They appreciate such simple words as «thank you», «sorry», making them of great meaning, because it speaks of the politeness and humanity of the interlocutor, then he is not so dangerous in his eyes.
- Take care of these unique people, if only because there are far fewer of them in the world than extroverts.
Conclusion
If you doubt whether you are an introvert or not, I recommend taking this test, with which you can determine your personality type.
And that’s all for today, dear readers! I hope you were able to find information for yourself on how to use the features of your character in order to improve and simplify your life as much as possible, achieving success and comfort. I recommend reading the following article about extroverts, because in each of us there are features of both types of temperament, and in this article you will find how to determine your type, because sometimes it is not easy.
The material for the article was prepared by Zhuravina Alina.