He already had love in his heart. He captured the image of the girl before. Now — everything worked out!
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Imprinting the Beloved is a flash of attention, an instant and permanent record in memory: “This is my Beloved!”
“You just entered — I instantly found out
all numb, blazed
and in her thoughts she said — «Here he is!»
«Eugene Onegin, Tatiana’s letter». A.S. Pushkin
The mechanism of imprinting the Beloved is very similar to the mechanism of imprinting in animals.
The well-known animal psychologist K. Lorenz showed that the chicks (and not only chicks) that were born do not yet know who their mother is. At a strictly defined time, a few hours after birth, they have a state of readiness for imprinting, their eyes seem to be searching: “Who are you, mother? Where are you, mom? Mom recognizes what has “key irritants” — for goslings, for example, this is something resembling a beak on a medium-sized moving object. Since usually immediately after birth, their mother is next to them, they imprint it on her. But if the researcher removes the mother, sits down instead of her, somehow depicting a beak, the goslings recognize him as their mother and after that they are ready to follow him all their childhood. That’s it, the imprint has happened: now show them the real, dear mother — they won’t recognize her. See Imprinting
Unlike imprinting, which presupposes an innate readiness for a fixed imprinting that usually occurs in early childhood, the imprinting of the Beloved occurs in a fully adult state and is conditioned not by innate, but by social and situational factors. That is, it can be — completely strange and random.
The formula for imprinting the Beloved
To capture the Beloved, only two circumstances are needed: a certain (preferably higher) level of pre-love plus a key stimulus.
pre-love
A necessary condition for imprinting the Beloved is the state of pre-love. The stronger, brighter, more intense the state of pre-love, the easier it is to imprint the Beloved, the more a random person can turn out to be the Beloved.
Key Incentive
In order for pre-love to “shoot”, a key stimulus is needed: a sign, a signal that “This is He!” («She is»).
What could be such a key stimulus?
- A picture of a loved one or a picture of his appearance
- Miscellaneous Omens
- Body response (heart beating)
- insanity
If there is an interruption in the Heart, and you don’t know what is happening to you, if blood is beating in the Heart, then it has come to you …. Heart attack.
If the state of pre-love is present and some key stimulus is triggered, the more successful are the combination of several key stimuli — the Beloved is imprinted.
The girl is waiting for Him, although she still doesn’t know exactly whom … And if at that moment someone successfully and on time approached what he had to say (“Girl, let me give you a flower for your charm … Listen, let me invite you to the cinema — I have two tickets, a wonderful film, you won’t regret it …”) — that’s all, her heart began to beat, she said to herself: “This is He!”, She fell in love.
Further, usually, there is a promotion of the experience of love and the formation of true love. Which is usually called more beautifully: love.