To give vent to emotions and burst into tears in front of everyone: is it always bad? Be that as it may, tears usually only indicate that a person, for some reason, simply could not restrain himself.
We are not even talking about corporate parties, when colleagues who barely know each other or frankly do not digest each other, having drunk too much, are accepted, sobbing, to share problems in their personal lives or confess their unrequited love to someone from the office. Obviously, such drunken frankness is inappropriate, but what if someone just burst into tears at work? Why do others often react negatively to this?
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People cry for various reasons: from joy, grief, grief, anger, or because they are cutting onions. It is obvious that a restaurant kitchen worker who needs to cut onions for the whole day does not cause contempt among colleagues, although he bursts into tears.
Tears for other reasons are also perceived differently. If someone cries with joy after receiving a promotion, others may react positively to this. If someone has tears in their eyes due to the fact that he can hardly contain his rage, colleagues understand that at this moment it is better to bypass him.
There are many different reasons for crying, and we cannot say that we understand all of them. The life of any person is so complicated, if we take into account everything that happens to us every day, that a variety of factors can provoke a desire to cry. The most likely triggers for crying are stress and irritation. Obviously, in a modern office, these triggers are enough.
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A crying person sends a signal to others about his emotional state, people understand such signals well, but their reaction is a completely different story.
When answering the question “Is it okay to cry?”, it is important to consider the positive impact of crying on someone who is upset. However, crying is not easy to study – in the scientific world, experiments in which people are forced to cry in laboratory conditions are not approved. However, available evidence suggests that the positive effect of tears on mood is minimal, and the positive effect is enhanced in the presence of other people. Yet the notion that a person feels better as a result is wrong. How you feel after a tantrum is highly dependent on the reasons that caused the tears.
Perhaps tears are just a biological reaction of the body to events that confuse a person. Even if this is the case, don’t look down on those who cry at work. Their tears testify only that a person cannot restrain himself.
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The gender of the person crying is undoubtedly an important factor influencing the attitude of others to tears, especially at work. In any case, women are the losers. Research shows that those who always remain cool and self-possessed are seen by colleagues as bossy, harsh, and cold, while those who show their emotions are called weak, unpredictable, and unstable.
It is commonly believed that women cry more than men, but this is not necessarily true. It seems that men and women cry for different reasons, but this does not affect the frequency. But if a man cries at work, almost all colleagues begin to perceive him as a loser, which can be disastrous for his career.
Perhaps there is no good reason to condemn people for tears where the level of stress and demands are sometimes prohibitive, and the choice of possible reactions is very limited. And perhaps there is nothing wrong with a person crying at work if he completed a difficult project, but his merits were not appreciated, or if he works in constant tension. In this context, one can only say that crying people are able to express their feelings immediately, and not hold back emotions until the end of the working day.
See more at The Guardian.