Can you control your character?

If you are not a completely wild person, you can control your character, at least to a certain extent. There is always a certain flexibility of character both in adults and in children. Parents are well aware that a child can have a completely different character for mom, dad and grandma. When they need it, children can change their character: with someone they cannot help throwing tantrums, but with someone they are completely silky. When necessary, children can change their character. Can adults also freely control their character?

To change your character gradually — every person who has set himself such a task can. It’s not easy, but it’s real. A person can do much more than he thinks, if desired, you can even change such a bodily trait as temperament. Almost anyone can hide their “sharp corners” for a while, but seriously change their character depending on the situation, presenting to others the character that is required in a given situation for the existing tasks — this is not possible for everyone. This already requires a certain mindset, interest and, most importantly, training. If you want to learn, learn. Or: life will force you to master it.

It happens that in some people a completely controllable character is formed naturally, as if without any special efforts: here we can say that an adult has retained the natural flexibility of a child’s character. More often, growing up, people lose their flexibility of character, and in order to regain the ability to control their character, change their character situationally, you need to work hard. Under what conditions does a person develop (or can develop) a controlled character?

First, a lot depends on the attitudes of the person. If a person is convinced that “character is an immutable thing,” he will not change it and will not even try to control it. If a person has an understanding that the character can be changed within certain limits, his character becomes more manageable.

Secondly, a lot determines the interest (benefit) of a person to change (or not change) his character. If it is beneficial for a child or an adult person-child to prove that he cannot do anything with his character, he will always prove it. At least prove it to yourself. If a girl understands that the young man who is interested in her has very definite views on how a girl can react, and how to react is unacceptable, she will completely correct her character, at least next to him. Similarly, at work — the most quick-tempered young people become reserved if they are interested in work.

At the same time, no one canceled the congenital circumstances. Some children are characterized by a natural flexibility of character, the bodily possibility of a variety of behavior and responses, other children are already born with fairly rigid characteristics: this one was born stubborn, he was ready to yell for hours, getting his way from his parents, and this one from childhood seemed to be a little lethargic, to persevere and it was not very typical for him to achieve his own … Yes, everything is more difficult for someone, but the only way to understand your boundaries is to start developing, to begin to overcome your boundaries. Those who develop their behavioral flexibility become more flexible, sometimes amazingly flexible. Actors have amazing behavioral and emotional flexibility — although, unfortunately, they do not always use it.

Can you control your character? You will get an answer when you set yourself such a task and try to do it. And those who want — it turns out. I wish you success!