Can parents walk naked in front of a child: psychologists’ comments

Serious debates on this topic periodically flare up on the Internet. On the forums, there are disputes between supporters and opponents. Some mothers do not see anything shameful in the fact that dad washes in the shower with his daughter, while others categorically avoid their appearance with a child, even in underwear.

Psychologists do not consider it necessary to once again be naked in front of a baby, and they give their arguments on the arguments of supporters of domestic nudism.

Supporters: nudity is natural, because nature is laid down in such a way that a person lives without any disguise, without fur and a tail, so you should not go against nature and hide your body under clothes.

Psychologists: a rather dubious statement. If you follow this logic, then you do not need to hide anything that is provided by nature: you can take the child with you to the toilet and to the matrimonial bed – after all, this is everything from nature, everything is natural.

Supporters: But what about in African tribes everyone goes without clothes, children see it, and nothing terrible happens.

Psychologists: but we do not live in Africa, much less tribes. Let’s not forget that a civilized society has a different culture and traditions.

If you walk around the apartment in your underwear, you need to explain this to your child. For example: it’s hot at home, it’s more comfortable, but it’s not accepted to walk like this on the street.

There are no reliable research results that the appearance of naked parents somehow affects the psychosexual development of children.

Scientists of different directions have come to the conclusion that human sexuality begins at the age of two or three; some suggest that it forms in humans while still in the womb. In any case, the development of sexuality is influenced by the family, its values, norms and the framework of what is permitted. Therefore, parents need to understand that sexuality is a natural process of the formation and development of a personality and requires a normal attitude and healthy attention.

The human body is perceived as an ordinary attribute of life. And the genitals are equated with those parts of the body that need to be covered, without focusing on this: “It is so accepted in society.”

The calmer you behave in situations when suddenly the child finds you naked, the less you deny in the child’s mind the presence of your own breast, the differences in the genitals, the more healthy, self-confident and calm child you will bring up. His sexuality will be healthy and will manifest itself at the age when it should manifest itself, in a relationship with his partner, when the time comes for this.

Everyone understands the state of affairs and tries not to go too far. It is clear that families are different, because they are formed by different people. Someone allows himself to run naked with children from bathroom to bedroom, someone closely monitors that the child, God forbid, does not see anything superfluous. Sometimes it goes to extremes.

So, one of the women who spoke out at one of the forums admitted that she is not only embarrassed to change clothes in front of her son, but even brushes her teeth with a closed door (“an intimate hygienic procedure”). But this is an exception.

Most parents try to take the golden mean in their behavior: once again they try not to shine with charms, but if the child saw them without clothes, then tragedies do not happen – nothing can be done, everything is natural …

True, psychologists advise to pay attention to the fact that the child is likely to copy you, even your appearance. Mom is the first woman in a child’s life. The girl develops a female identity, the image of “I”. The boy, in the image and likeness of his mother, will choose a wife. So what matters is what kind of mom and what kind of dad he sees: beautifully built, athletic and slender or shapeless, unkempt and unsportsmanlike.