Can love burn forever?

Can love burn for a lifetime? The short answer is:

1. Falling in love cannot last forever and will die out within a certain period of time.
2. Love can burn all your life, but only among rare people of a high level of development. That is, it is a rare and expensive pleasure.
3. But a good and bright relationship in a couple is a much more realistic thing, and, perhaps, this is the majority of reasonable people who should strive for.

Now more. What to do to love all your life? When asked about love, I want to answer only with verses, but our answers will not be entirely romantic, a lot will have to be clarified.

First, are you talking about love or falling in love? Love cannot burn forever.

Usually, falling in love is three years (or less), then the body gets used to it and the chemistry ceases to act. All. Looking for a new source of charm…

Chemistry ceases to act, but there are people who live in a state of love almost constantly. In this case, it is difficult to say that a person is in love with someone in particular, he is in love with life, and this is transmitted to a specific person.

Then for the first 3 years you love a girl, the next — your young wife, then the Madonna and Child, then the mother of a first-grader and a beautiful woman. And so on — up to the perky old woman, surrounded by a flock of grandchildren.

Changing the social role of a person and changing his inner world allows love to burn all his life — provided that this person knows how to love. Of course, the color of love also changes: in place of the former love (romantic love, love-passion), another love gradually comes: love-joy, love-gratitude.

Now the main question: are you about love or about relationships? Love and relationships are about different things: you know couples who have a very good and stable relationship with each other, but they don’t talk about love. When people ask about love for life, more often than not, they mean something else: a good relationship for a long time. With love everything is more difficult, but with relationships it is easier. Maybe this is how it should be: first deal with relationships, make your relationships with loved ones and loved ones excellent, and then think about love and other beautiful things? Good relationships are quite real, and good relationships, caring for each other, is the basis of love.

However, maybe your question “is it possible to love forever” is about something else. Maybe you dream that your feeling would be eternal on its own, without your efforts, do you want to love all your life without doing anything for this? If yes, then you can continue to want, but this does not happen. In itself, the feeling is not eternal: for a certain period — light up, but for the rest of your life — no.

If you want to love all your life, then you must take care to live joyfully and be attentive to your loved ones. And live like this for the rest of your life. In fact, this is work, this is effort, but if you love, these efforts are joyful for you, and after years they are no longer difficult, but natural and familiar.

Is it hard for you to work with a spoon during breakfast? Here it is the same.

Nothing complicated: you need to get enough sleep, do exercises, become organized, master the internal Good and the external Sun, learn to love — that is, in general, master the Distance program and other work on yourself. And if you are not going to work, dear romantic, then in your life eternal love will be mainly on TV.

Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov

Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.