Admit it, do you have to argue with your child? Or maybe even swear sometimes? Don’t worry, all parents do it. We find out relationships for any reason: when to get up, where to go, what to eat, what to wear. True, I would not want to spend too much time on this. After all, this means that something is wrong in the family – either the upbringing has let down, or there is no self-control, or the parental authority is lonely in the area of the plinth.
Tireless British scientists decided to calculate how much time we spend arguing with children. For this we interviewed 2000 families with children aged from two to 12 years. It turned out that they argue with their offspring on average 2184 times a year. This is 5-6 times a day! More than half of the controversy concerns the menu. This is the most common reason for swearing – children do not want to eat what they have on their plate, even if they complain that they are hungry. The second most popular reason for controversy is an uncleaned room.
In addition, parents often quarrel with their children because they strive to eat sweets before meals, delay the time when it is time to go to bed, and categorically do not want to take on their homework. The top ten popular reasons for controversy also included excessive sticking of children in gadgets and avoiding brushing their teeth.
On average, each verbal battle lasts a little over eight minutes. At the same time, in half or even a little more cases, the parents win the dispute. However, 6 out of 10 moms and dads admitted that they are trying to find a compromise in order to keep the peace in the family. In total, every day we spend about 49 minutes arguing, and all in order to eventually make a deal with our own child. Yes, here’s a compromise – 9 out of 10 parents offer their children a reward for eating normally, cleaning up, and doing their homework. Usually this is extra time for gadgets and TV, or even money. And the most popular type of punishment is deprivation of access to the Internet and TV.