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The difference in physiology and psychology
No one will argue with the fact that there is a difference between boys and girls. What is the mere external difference worth? But what else and why are they different from each other?
- It turns out that the representatives of the weaker sex hear and distinguish sounds close to high-frequency sounds much better than the representatives of the strong. This explains the fact that mom will hear the cry of the child through a dream, and dad will continue to sleep peacefully. But, in turn, the man will quickly understand where the sound comes from. This skill helps the hunter to determine the location of future prey.
- Girls also have wider peripheral vision. They are able to clearly see space at an angle of 45 degrees up, down, right and left. Nature did it for a reason, because with such a skill it is much easier for any female to ensure that the cubs do not run away and are not in danger. But boys have the ability to see better ahead, into the distance, which in the ancient world also helped them on the hunt.
- Their speech is also different. In girls, areas in both the left and right hemispheres of the brain are responsible for it, and in boys, only in one of them. Even small men use only three tones in speech, while small women actively use five. It is for these reasons that girls are more talkative, which helps females to distract, entertain and calm babies, and young people are more silent, which once again helps them on the hunt.
- At the age of 2 to 3 years, children consciously begin to feel their belonging to one or another gender. They learn role-playing behavior by taking an example from their parents. Therefore, boys, like dad, start fiddling with cars and fixing something, and girls, like mom, cook and play with dolls, which is also explained by maternal instinct.
- Due to differences in the mindset, at school, the stronger and weaker sex also have time in different ways. From the first school days, girls learn better, because their speech is better developed, and boys, feeling stupider against their background, become more noisy and restless. But subsequently, many girls begin to lag behind in those subjects in which spatial imagination is needed, and boys, on the contrary, get better grades in them. Many parents, not knowing such subtleties, scold their children, setting a brother or sister as an example, which in no case should be done.
Now we know that boys and girls differ not only externally, but also internally. Maybe it’s not for nothing that there is an opinion that women are from Venus, and men are from Mars? ..
Stereotypes of parenting
Author: Irina Vopnyarskaya www.efamily.ru
raising girls
- Girls are more emotional
Many mothers notice that girls at a younger age often change moods: from sad to cheerful, from friendly to dull — in contrast to boys, who are more inclined to “go with the flow”.
- Arguing and arguing more often
Girls begin to speak earlier and, due to certain developmental features, they acquire verbal skills faster and better. Yes, it’s good, on the one hand. On the other hand, you have to deal with all the whims, objections and other manifestations of the process of becoming a person.
- Emotionally aggressive
Boys show their aggression by physical means, while girls attack the offender by verbal means: malicious comments, rumors, they may not communicate, be excluded from games and ignored in every possible way.
Boys upbringing
According to mothers, the most problematic aspects of the educational process of boys are as follows:
- Boys are aggressive and physically active
They are constantly in the process of playing: they run, jump, fall, use furniture as springboards. Boys are always ready to break or damage something. This happens for two reasons: due to high physical activity and low levels of empathy, which affects the fact that boys do not understand well that “breaking” or “damaging” is bad.
- Verbal communication at the very beginning presents a certain difficulty.
Boys begin to develop verbal skills later than girls. The style of these skills is also different. Girls are more likely to discuss multiple options, boys only express what they definitely want to get to take or do. For example, the situation with the choice of which cartoon to watch. The girl will discuss with you both her and your options, the boy will stand his ground that Pokemon is the best cartoon.
- Any activity is turned into a competition
They compete with peers, with brothers and sisters, with parents. If you are raising two boys, then sometimes the competitiveness helps if you want the kids to get dressed faster or eat faster, etc.
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