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Blogger Irina Druzhinina advice on education
Instamama according to Wday.ru Irina Druzhinina told how she manages to successfully combine her career and family and how she brings up her daughters.
Irina Druzhinina from Rostov is not just a beautiful woman and a caring mother of two children, she is the winner of the “Instamam” contest according to Wday.ru. In her blog @ mrs.druzhinina, which is read by more than a million people, Irina writes about the family, children, their creativity and development, discussing issues and nuances of motherhood with her subscribers. And today she shares her own secrets of education with our readers.
“I don’t consider myself an Instagram star”
I never had a goal of becoming a blogger. It all started with the fact that one day, during the first maternity leave, I started an Instagram page. Like many other mothers, I began to share a part of my life, upload pictures of the child, write about our games and activities, along the way discussing interesting topics around motherhood. Apparently, I managed to hook my subscribers with something, because today I have a fairly large audience of mothers, “pregnant women” and those who are just planning children. Surprisingly, my life has not changed at all after I became a blogger! A couple of times I was recognized by subscribers on the streets of the city, but I do not consider it glory. Nor do I consider myself an Instagram star. But I am very glad to receive the title of “Instamam according to WDay.ru”!
There are four people in our family: mom, that is, me, dad, my husband, and two daughters – six-year-old Marusya and one-year-old Victoria. My husband Eugene primarily works and tries to help me with the children whenever possible. Although I am on maternity leave, I have found a balance between career and motherhood. I am engaged in publishing, and while I am at work, assistants sit with little Victoria. The eldest daughter is graduating from kindergarten this year, so we are actively preparing for the upcoming school. In addition, my Marusya is studying in a model school for children and is learning English.
My daughters and I love to play catch-up, however, it turns out that this is so far with the eldest – little Victoria is just learning to walk. We adore ball games and cannot imagine our life without singing and dancing.
“Do not forget about yourself beloved”
Is it easier with a second child? Interest Ask! On the one hand, when the next baby is born, the mother already has experience, which undoubtedly makes life easier. On the other hand, all children are different, and even with my second daughter, I faced completely new situations. But on the other hand, I felt more confident, besides, my eldest daughter helped me a lot. She is only 6 years old, and she, in fact, is still a child herself, who also requires attention and love. But she showed herself as a very sensitive and intelligent child, for which I am very grateful to her! When I became a mother for the second time, I realized that I was working too hard on the first maternity leave, I tried to redo as many things as possible while the child was sleeping; because of this, I got tired and exhausted very quickly. With my second child, I began to relate to everything much easier and not focus on unpleasant little things. Mom, remember: business is business, but you must not forget about yourself!
“Our baby sleeps with us”
Many parents practice joint sleep with their children, and I, willy-nilly, belong to such. So I have no idea how to put children of different ages to bed at the same time! My baby Victoria is now sleeping with us, we do not put her in a separate bed yet, but from about 2 years old I plan to move her into a room with my eldest daughter. Hopefully it won’t be a global problem for me to put them to bed together. I plan to act like this: pay attention to both the older and the younger, reading them their favorite books in turn. I believe that I will succeed! The main thing is to spend enough time with each child so that they don’t feel jealous of each other. Although at some stage in your life you will have to face it. For example, in our family, the eldest daughter was jealous of me for the baby, but, thank God, not for long, because I talked to her, showed love and affection. If you are faced with the same problem, then try to pay more attention to the child who is jealous.
“Age crisis is difficult”
In children, as in adults, age crises periodically occur. And here are the conclusions I made for myself on this topic. During this period, the child needs close attention from adults. You cannot punish them for bad behavior, you need to try to select ways of soft influence so that the child understands that the parents are ready to support and help him. Naturally, you should not blindly follow the lead of all the whims and requests, but you should not constantly push the child away either. Without support and help, the baby will withdraw into himself, he will less trust in adults, and this will lead to serious problems in the future. Talk to your child more often, “bring” to communication even those who shut themselves off from you. Your task is to find out what your son or daughter is feeling now.
This summer we are planning to bring our daughters to the sea. I can already call myself an experienced mom in terms of flying with children, so I can give advice to everyone who is going on vacation. The road, whether it be a train, car or plane, is not an easy test for both children and parents. To prevent the trip from becoming hell, buy new toys first. Precisely new ones that children have never held in their hands before! You will see that little travelers will instantly get carried away by the game, and you can carve out some time to read a book or listen to music. Toys can be very basic, you don’t have to spend a lot of money. It is easier with older children, for example, my 6-year-old daughter watches a tablet with games and “developmental games” on the road. I wish all WDay.ru readers a rich summer and an unforgettable vacation!