Believe in yourself

Self-confidence is a person’s belief that he will succeed. Self-confidence in the face of a challenge, a difficult task. Believing in yourself is the starting ingredient for any great success.

Do not confuse belief in yourself and belief in your own effectiveness (self-efficacy): a person who believes in himself may not be sure that he will cope with specific tasks, at least for now. He is sure that if he sets such a task for himself, sooner or later he will cope — for sure! Self-efficacy is a situational assessment and rather from the head. Belief in oneself is a general, holistic state of a person, a state of his spirit, manifested in the state of his body.

But self-esteem and self-confidence are closer and strongly interconnected things: usually an increase in self-esteem strengthens self-confidence, and vice versa —

A young man may have low self-esteem — he understands that he does not yet have a quality education, his appearance is ordinary, his physical data are average, his leadership skills are absent, but at the same time he can believe in himself: “I will have it!” Self-esteem is rather low, self-confidence is high.

What to do if there is no faith in yourself

Most likely, you used to believe in yourself. Look at the little children — they all cry quite persistently, with the conviction that they are right, all the children confidently run from their mother and climb into the arms of their father. If you once had self-confidence and you can remember it, remember this state more often, this will be a good basis for a new, more solid self-confidence — a confidence that will never leave you.

It is important that you do not destroy your faith in yourself—yourself. Destroying your faith in yourself is not difficult, many do it: they lower their shoulders, make a sad face and confidently tell themselves that they are nobody and they will not succeed. Look at yourself — is this not about you? Worse, after that, such people are persistently busy destroying self-confidence among those around them and especially people close to them. See →

It is not difficult to lose faith in yourself and your strengths if you have not backed up this faith with something more solid, if you have not taught yourself to live, communicate, set goals and achieve your goals. Anyone who has acquired all the skills necessary for a successful life is confident in himself. If there are no necessary skills, then self-confidence is an “empty” faith, it is like a house without a foundation: it can stand for a short time, but then it will fall anyway.

Self-confidence is like start-up capital: if you use it wisely, it will grow. If it is thoughtlessly spent, without reinforcing it with anything, there will soon be nothing left of it.

So how do you find confidence in yourself, how to get it back? Stop asking yourself this stupid question. There is no need to look for faith in yourself: it is not stored anywhere ready for you. But if you create it, develop it, you will have it. Self-confidence is sought by people with a romantic approach to business. Responsible people are not engaged in the search for faith in themselves, but in goal setting, accumulation of resources and work. The main direction is to gain knowledge, skills, life experience, to become really more successful and efficient. An auxiliary direction is to hold the body correctly, to be able to see one’s virtues, to feel one’s strength. In total, see How to Develop Self-Confidence

How to develop self-confidence in children

Is it possible to develop self-confidence in children? With people close to you? Sometimes it is possible, but usually it is necessary. See →.