Becoming a mom: the 10 unglamorous things to expect

Leaks during pregnancy

In short, the baby’s weight presses on your perineum and the hormonal impregnation tends to relax your muscles. As a result, at the slightest effort, you can hardly hold back your urine. Which can cause leaks sneezing, laughing, lifting or running to catch the bus.

Little tips to play down : during pregnancy, you cannot really strengthen your perineum, only try to feel the area and its reactions in order to have the reflex to “tighten” at the right time. Other ways to cope with these inconveniences include going to the bathroom often, wearing discreet panty liners, and providing a perineal rehabilitation in due form with a midwife a few weeks after childbirth.

The quickdraw during childbirth

The pain, the effort, the stress, no need to draw yourself a picture, you will be hot and therefore your cheeks pink (even scarlet), sweaty hair, your body in water. Add to this the pale yellow maternity gowns and / or open on the buttocks as the case may be, the absence of jewelry required by the hospital, the absence of make-up (it is only the stars to redo their features. eyeliner before going to the birth room), white neon lights… and you get a future mother… Natural !

Little tips to play down : focused on your goal, you will surely not think about it! Only the first photos will prove to you that this was not a nightmare. And on closer inspection, you will only remember your smiles and your tears of emotion. Note: going into a bathroom after the fight is a moment of pure delight.

Small possible traumas when pushing

You might scream, swear, bite your spouse to give you courage. But also to explode some small vessels in your eyes while pushing. Even forget you when the baby is expelled… There will be blood and water. We are not far from the horror scene …

Little tips to play down : count on the emotion which suffuses the moment with a glimmer of tenderness (we believe it). Also tell yourself that your partner is also going through a test, he will not hold you against this extreme state, and is not focused on your crotch either (especially if you motivate him to stay close to your bust). In short, no one can blame a champion for exulting at the end of her marathon!

Maternity’s “panties-nets”

Another joy to be expected: that of putting on maternity panties (if they were orange, they could be used to wrap clementines). Indeed, the first hours after childbirth, you will have to wear rather voluminous intimate protections, hence the use of these briefs with sexy cuts and materials.

A little advice to play down : invest in disposable panties to take to the maternity ward (easy to find in pharmacies). They will be less depressing (or more comfortable) than the maternity models. It’s always taken for your self-esteem and your comfort!

Make love again with the baby in the bedroom

You are back home whole with your lovely baby and your tired lover. After a few days of wedging (breast or bottle, cord care, friends at home) the libido could well be reinvigorated under the duvet. Except that a little inhabitant is snoozing in his basket near your bed. Weird, did you say weird?

A little advice to play down : a fulfilled parent equals a fulfilled baby. So if you feel the naughty soul and no medical contraindication has been asked, do not feel embarrassed to do yourself good! The only risk: wake up the little beast and set off for a loop: milk, diapers, lullaby …

The perineum relaxed during love

It’s a classic to be expected. As seen above, your perineal muscles have undoubtedly taken a bit of slack during pregnancy. And rehabilitation cannot start too early, especially if you are breastfeeding. As a result, at the time of penetration, you may lack sensations. Needless to say, it wasn’t the gentleman who changed his anatomy, or even your favorite sex toy that shrunk in the wash …

A little advice to play down : making love will help you strengthen your perineum. So, no reason to worry or to deprive yourself. On the contrary. After rehabilitation, everything goes back to how it was before. On the other hand, if you have had a episiotomy and the scar is tightening you, ask your midwife or gynecologist for advice.

Milk that overflows during cuddles

Moms who decide to breastfeed must know it, milk can come out in case of strong emotion, pressure (even moderate) and this, apart from the presence of a gluttonous baby. Another disappointment, caresses on breasts swollen with milk can be very unpleasant.

A little advice to play down : give preference to cuddling after feeding, especially if breastfeeding confuses your spouse a little. And take advantage of this constraint to guide your lover to other erogenous zones.

The smell of diapers in the house

It doesn’t take much to break the atmosphere of a romantic evening. The pungent scent of a diaper rolled into a ball and forgotten in a corner of the apartment is formidable …

A little advice to play down : invest in a diaper bin and / or scented diaper bags. Empty garbage cans often. Air, burn some incense (not in the baby’s room, however). In short, think about pampering the olfactory atmosphere of the house. Guaranteed anti-depression tip.

The wardrobe at half mast

Maternity leggings rough, bleached nursing tops… you rummage through your closets looking for a decent outfit. All young mothers have experienced this period of sartorial gloom where the shabby pregnancy wardrobe has become too large, and the one before (slightly old-fashioned) no longer closes.

A little advice to play down : sort the two wardrobes thoroughly and isolate in two or three drawers the least damaged parts and the most suited to your current figure. Also take out some accessories to brighten up your looks. In short, make something new with old. And if your budget allows it, invest in a few comfortable basics that will lift your spirits: a little printed dress, black jeans that make pretty buttocks, a t-shirt or an impeccable sweater, a beautiful set of lingerie to forget the briefs- filet (you deserve it).

The pregnancy “belly”… after pregnancy!

The days following the birth leave you with a very round belly which sometimes generates incongruous thoughts “Oh, you are six months old, like me!” And require you to put on your elastic waist pants.

A little advice to play down “ Nine months to do, nine months to undo »Must be your motto so as not to be disillusioned. First, give your uterus time to return to its usual size. Then, give your body time to burn the fat it accumulated during pregnancy for the well-being of your baby. Breastfeeding (exclusive and over six months) will help. Then, as soon as your perineum has returned to its Olympic shape, resume regular physical activity. And if you have any love handles left, just put them to good use …