Those who want, look for opportunities. Others look for and find excuses.
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For a healthy person with goals, the direction of life is determined, and when he is cheerful and energetic, he does not need any additional self-motivation. He communicates, strikes up relationships, undertakes business, he cannot live without movement and business.
This is fine!
Young children do not need self-motivation either — they, like little livelihoods, are active in all directions. They just need to be stopped. Athletes-champions, people with the “invincibility” personal attitude, also do not need to be motivated: they are always charged to fight and win. It’s in their blood. A healthy and vigorous person does not need motivation, his internal motor works without interruption. When a healthy person retires, he suddenly realizes that he cannot and does not want to work without work, that he naturally wants to work.
However, it happens that over time — or after some difficult events — the internal motor begins to fail and weaken. Internal energy — decreases, a person slows down or begins to enter a stupor from time to time, as if inside stops.
I get up because I have to go to work. And you need to go to work so that you have something to feed your family. I eat to have calories … Everything is clear — but there is no drive. And doing something just because it is necessary is not at all the same as doing something on the hunt, with interest and desire. I want to run to work, because I love it. He dreams of running away on a date, because he is bored and pulls. The real taste of the water that you really want to drink. I want to want to. It is possible to live and work without motivation, but with motivation, with desire, it is easier, livelier and tastier!
The reasons for this may be different. Most often it is:
Age. The motor is the heart of the machine, and the natural wear and tear of our internal motor over the years is, unfortunately, inevitable. “Oh my lost freshness, riot of eyes and flood of feelings …” — to one degree or another this will affect everyone, it is only important to make sure that it touches you later and to a lesser extent. There are women at 60 who overtake the young, and there are men at 80 whose vitality and vigor can only be envied. In summary: prevention and development of your personality is important here, so that even against the background of age-related declines in energy, your motor does not let you down.
Psychological blocks. If something else is poured into the tank instead of high-quality gasoline, the car will stop. A punctured tire or a broken gearbox gear is the same. A block is a hard obstacle in the way of vital energy. Psychological blocks can work due to a triggered negative anchoring, or they can be created as an unconscious protest reaction, revenge on life or drawing attention to yourself. This topic is complex, most likely you will need an expert here. However, you can do a lot yourself.
Low level of personality development. When the engine roars and has more power, the quality of the service mechanisms is not so important: everything will move. But when the motor is tired, you need lubrication, you need fine tuning, adjustment and optimization of all internal systems. Any machine needs maintenance from time to time, where it will be looked at, debugged and some systems will be replaced with more modern ones. If we move from a machine to a person, then if a person knows how to pull himself together, if he has developed a will, or at least good habits, he continues to live and move at any age and in any circumstances. If a person has not been taught anything about this and he has not taught himself, he begins to whine and look for an external force that will still move him.
It used to be driven by mom, dad and natural energy, but now nobody moves it. And he does not know how to move himself. Here’s the trouble! And then a person goes to doctors for pills or psychologists for advice, and this does not always end well …
In order not to be late, you need to learn in advance the art of self-regulation, learn to manage your emotions. feelings, states and moods. It’s time to learn to manage yourself, develop your personality. Begin?
However, more often we meet with simulation and lies. If a person has lived for many years, learning the state of the Victim, learning to whine and complain, then over time he becomes a master of his craft, he already believes in himself and plays the play “I can’t — I don’t want to — I won’t” professionally. The game “Lack of motivation” (“I’m not interested, make me interested, create motivation for me”) is one of the most common social games where a sick person either draws attention to himself or manipulates, reshaping relationships in his favor.
Those who want, look for opportunities, those who do not want, look for excuses. Once again, we recall the main thing: a healthy and energetic person who knows his goals does not need self-motivation. A person who often complains that he needs motivation is a person who is either sick or wants to receive some benefits.