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Want some tips for keep stress away back to school? For our colleagues at Le Figaro, experts in slow parenting, that is to say in the art of being parents “slowly”, give us six tips for approaching the start of the school year in a positive and stressful way.
1. We practice intimate ecology
Nathalie Desanti, author of “And one day… I decided to play the turtle. How slow parenting has changed my life ”, advises mothers: “While we are fighting against the overexploitation of the planet, it is time to come to terms with one’s intimate ecology, being careful not to overdo it and not forgetting to cultivate positive emotions ”. We become actors of our health by taking care of ourselves, by observing, breathing and questioning.
2. Family meditation sessions
Practice the meditation with his children? This is what psychologist Jeanne Siaud-Facchin advises: “We start the day with the Tree Exercise: three to four minutes standing, back straight, arms at your sides. We focus on his souffle and on what we feel ”. And we end the day with “The body scan: we imagine a beam moving on the body, from the head to the toes, passing through the stomach, the arms … muscles relax right away. “
3. Do you know about Caregiving?
Caregiving can result in a system of communication between a parent and his child, consisting in “giving care”. You have to be present both psychologically and physically, but above all to be close to him and emotionally available. For example, giving instructions by touching a child on the shoulder is more effective than yelling from across the house. Nathalie Desanti, psychotherapist coach, clarifies “Every morning, instead of waking the children up by shouting“ stand up! ”I massage their feet and remind them that it is daylight. “
4. “Slow messages” that do good
Slow messages are alternative communication techniques, softer, for children. For example, harassment by SMS is prohibited ” When are you coming back ? “ and we replace it with sweet words that we leave lying around in their rooms: “Thank you for this moment together”. We try to go from negative to positive, from order to compliment, and it will get better!
5. Less = more
The theory of ” less is more Is to have less in order to have more. Concretely, adopting minimalism with your children means thatwe eliminate the excess, to focus on the essentials. Tired of too many children’s hobbies? We choose two extracurricular activities and that’s enough. Tired of technology everywhere all the time? We spend less time on our phone to play more with our children.
6. Stop procrastination!
The psychotherapist warns: “To procrastinate is to keep a stress deep within you and run the risk of over-accelerating a little later”. Instead of postpone until the next day, we help children to plan their schedules, to set goals, to become independent. The coach even suggests setting up a “slow-break”, that is to say a calm moment when you take care of yourself. “After this time, the brain is mobilized better and concentration is there”, testifies the expert.