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I need to be a mother, it’s stronger than me
“I couldn’t really explain why or when it was, but I know I’ve always wanted to have kids. In any case, it’s something that has never scared me. I even believe that I could have had a child on my own or adopted. After all, it’s another way to start a family when you haven’t found the right person. Personally, I had a need to be a mother (I still have it), to pass things on and to give love. It is perhaps also linked to the fact that I have always adored children, younger, I also animated summer camps and I remember that I was completely in love with children of 4-5 years. After, this desire for a child was confirmed and materialized when I met my husband. For us, it was immediately obvious, so much so that I stopped the pill the day after my wedding. We want a big family, ideally 3, 4 children. I find that there is something beautiful in large families, we are more united. But for now, it’s not started well: I have a little boy of almost 2 years old and it’s been almost a year since we try to have a 2nd child. Medical treatments have this perverse effect that my desire to be a child has increased tenfold and sometimes becomes obsessive especially when the girlfriends get pregnant. I am more and more impatient, on the one hand because I have had enough of repeated injections and ultrasounds and, on the other hand, because I want this baby. I cannot bring myself to have only one child. ”
Laura
The death of my parents triggered my desire for a child
“I was not a little girl who played with dolls, I had no particular attraction for children. I believe it was the death of my parents that triggered my desire to start a family, to redo what I had lost. I even wanted to do better, to prove to those around me that I was capable of having children, lots of children (there were two of us with my sister). I have three grown daughters, but life has resulted in the loss of two children, a 9 month old baby boy and a baby girl almost in utero. After the death of this child, I remember asking the gynecologist to tie my tubes. He refused, telling me I was too young. He was right because barely a year later, I gave birth to my third daughter. Strangely enough, these two tragic events did not dampen my desire for a child. I think I have some form of resilience and that my desire for motherhood was each time stronger than my suffering, however immense. ”
Evelyne