Children like to own, easily appropriate things around them and obviously refuse to share them. Around 2 years old, we often hear them say that the objects are “Mine”. Everything belongs to them. Not only toddlers are possessive, but they are also egocentric. They only take into account their own desires and are often indifferent to others. All these little behaviors, which annoy you as a parent, are normal since at 2 years old, the young child has not yet developed a sense of empathy, that is to say the ability to put yourself in the other’s shoes and to fully understand the feelings or desires of others. This empathy develops gradually and it is only around the age of 4 that the majority of the little ones are able to exchange their toys, to cooperate and to take their turn. You will therefore need to exercise a little patience. Until then, of course, you can continue to explain the concepts of sharing.
No need to punish him
Although this is a major source of conflict in the daycare and in the family, it is better to avoid punishing your little one because he has not yet acquired the notion of sharing. Rather, it is necessary to show patience, tolerance and continue to encourage him to share. This is part of his training, we just need to give him a little time!
Suzanne’s advice
- Cause sharing situations (sharing an apple, candy, etc.)
- Don’t punish your child
- Do not force your child to share an object. Push it a bit, explain the importance of sharing and try again later
- Congratulate your child at the slightest demonstration of sharing