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Hello everybody. Do you have a family? This is not an idle question and it is not only about whether you are married or married. The core values of the family are formed at the beginning of our life, in our home. Each of us was once born to dad and mom. And this is happiness for the baby when he was surrounded by care, love. Have you ever thought about why only a human cub is born so helpless and takes so long to “stand on its feet”, grow up? After all, animals, birds, fish and all other living beings develop much faster.
I think to feel, to enjoy, to learn, to establish myself in this world. This requires a real family. After all, the price of your life and the values with which you will enter adulthood depend on the people who surround us.
Unfortunately, today in the first place in many families material values, so there is little love and attention. Today our families are in great danger.
A little about education
Remember your parental home, what did your parents teach you, what kind of example were they for you? What do children value in their parents? Everything that each of us received in the parental home, to one degree or another, transfers to our families. It is good if a good family lives next to a dysfunctional family, open to communication, friendly. Then there is a chance from a dysfunctional family to learn the right principles, the right relationship. Children are not only a pleasure, “to caress — to snuggle”, but also a great labor of love.
Contrasting examples
Every person needs love and it is inherent in us, it is on a subconscious level.
Do you think that this bum lying on a bench in smelly clothes does not need our love and care?
Or this one, who drives an expensive car or flies in his own plane, do you think he does not want to be loved? Yes, and so everyone loves him, you say, for the money. And he needs a warm look, a sincere word. He still remembers how in his youth his mother pressed him to her and stroked his head.
With sadness and pain, I think about those people who do not remember the tender mother’s hands or never knew their mothers at all. These are the children of orphanages and orphanages.
And this one? Did he forget how his mother wiped away his tears when he fell off the bike and hurt his knees in the blood? When did his heart turn to stone and he became a criminal and is now in prison behind bars?
Girl, you are still a schoolgirl, why did you have an abortion? I wanted love, but I got a fake, a fake and became the killer of my own child.
Rules of upbringing
Why do I write about such contrasts? Because every adult should rethink what he received in his parental family and what he will teach his own children.
Yes, of course, a lot influences the formation of a child’s character, and good children grow out of bad families and vice versa.
When we give up, we can refer to genes, bad friends and girlfriends, TV, computer and more and more.
The task of parents is to become a friend to their child. There is no single recipe. But there is one rule: love your child even when he has done such a thing that it is not enough to kill. But at this very moment, when the little man has done something, he really needs our love.
First mercy, then punishment, so that your child does not hold a grudge against you for life. One hundred would not break the unrooted offshoot of your tree with your own hands. Punish, but also forgive.
Sow good and eternal
For whatever a man sows, that he will reap. This wise proverb reflects the climate in our families. Teach children to love others, and not just to be loved, then there will be fewer broken hearts.
And one moment. Sometimes parents, more often mothers, do not let go of their adult children. This is either excessive guardianship or reproaches like: “I spent my whole life on you, you owe me a coffin.” There is no love here, it is beyond the threshold of your house. And know, be prepared that one day a man will leave his father and mother and cling to his wife.
Wish happiness to your children so that it is laid in the genes and inherited.
Conclusion
Happiness and love cannot be bought for any amount of money. A fake sooner or later will show itself. Therefore, the value of the family lies in the joint painstaking, everyday work and love in raising children. Peace and love to our families.
An article for the blog was written by Firsova Olga Konstantinovka. G. Novosibirsk.