Arrangement of disassembly — the initial stage of the prepared disassembly: accounting and organizing all the elements of the situation so that the disassembly is as efficient as possible. The main thing is to set this task consciously, as a separate task. Delivered — completed. Yes, move on to the next steps.
How to arrange disassembly:
Create comfort in every way: time, place, condition.
Criterion: during the entire future conversation, it should be good and convenient for both you and your interlocutor.
- Convenient time
No one is in a hurry, nothing distracts. Convenient time can be not so much found as created, including your own personal factor and forming a sense of leisure and comfort. Offer tea, allow yourself a couple of minutes of chatter on an extraneous pleasant topic.
- Convenient place (no one will interfere, will not distract, no need to whisper or wait).
As a rule, people can hardly stand being scolded in front of witnesses. Imagine in advance who will sit where and how, and only after the picture pleases you, perform it live. In particular, pay attention to psychogeography: how you will be located relative to each other.
- Comfortable state of mind (no one is angry, not hungry, not tired, not agitated).
Say something nice, thank you, supportively touch with a warm hand, touch on pleasant topics — if you are a creative person and set such a task, this will not be a big problem for you.
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